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And boyfriend went to the restaurant, he did those things to the waiter

I have trouble accepting

By Dai do anPublished 2 years ago 7 min read
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And boyfriend went to the restaurant, he did those things to the waiter
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Before I went to college, my parents were strict with me, so I didn't have any romantic experiences at that time. During college, I went to school in a city more than a thousand kilometers from home, and on campus, I met my first boyfriend. I thought about staying with him after graduating from college to work in the city where I went to school, but after graduating from college, he changed his mind: he insisted on returning to the county where he grew up to take the civil service exam. Because I do not want to follow him to his hometown, our feelings did not escape the spell of college love graduation death.

With the loss of love plus the fact that I am an only child, I finally chose to return to my parents to find a job, I am currently a teacher in a middle school. During this period, naturally, there will be a desire for love, but in the crowd, I know, so I am not satisfied with the opposite sex. So much so that at the age of 25 I still have not married myself off. In this case, my parents and relatives began to introduce me to dating partners.

It was in this situation that my boyfriend came into my life, but our relationship was put to an end by my initiative after almost a month of operation. To put it bluntly, in less than a month of our contact time, we do not know each other too well, at best, they have an eye for each other, have a relatively stable job, and the family is comparable, which makes me willing to give each other a chance to understand.

The reason why I took the initiative to break up is because of one thing: a few days ago, he asked me to go to a hot restaurant to eat, because the day more diners, the result: the food is a little slow. This time, the boyfriend looked particularly impatient: called the waiter to the side, the waiter a scolding. I couldn't stand it anymore, so I helped the waiter round up, but my boyfriend was a little unforgiving. Ask your boyfriend: after dinner, do you still have important things to do? Boyfriend: No!

Because of this incident, I took the initiative to break up with my boyfriend. Afterward, he blamed me for making a big deal out of it.

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Underline: the restaurant business is good, but the diners are particularly large. If you don't like to wait, don't go to this lively, now the street is full of the business cold hotel is more. Go to these cold restaurants, not only do not have to queue, and the speed of the food is also very fast, but the boss is also particularly enthusiastic. The restaurant is not its own home, is everyone, in the time of many diners, must follow the principle of first come first served. What's more, the waiter and you don't know each other, there is no intentional delinquency in your meal mind. People, are good at disguising the species, especially in front of feelings, and interests, will show relatively perfect, really in front of the people who do not mix well with themselves and the performance of irrelevant people, is the real human nature, but also the reality of the world.

You and your blind date break up, naturally, you have a strategy for judging human nature, just he did not realize the uglier side of his human nature. Born as human beings, although there is a difference between high and low, also need to give respect to those around us who do not wreak havoc on us. Many times, the reason we are served by some people, is just because we have different careers, why should the other party not deliberately make things difficult for you, to each other's words? Out of the mix, we are not easy, more kind, does not smell. After the incident, your boyfriend still feels that his behavior is not wrong. This time he said you make a big deal out of it, let him say it. For this kind of people, always meet than he mixes well and looks at his dislike to clean him up.

I have had similar experiences in life: 1) someone, the work is relatively bright, usually polite to me, we are introduced by a friend to meet. The source of our work at the time was only a five-minute walk to the place, so that at noon often about a meal, during the time also encountered a slow food rush dishes scene, he was in front of the crowd in the face of the waiter scolding mouth really ugly, is that after, I never appeared with him at the same table scene, just meet still will say hello; 2) someone, like to drink, the key is not the amount of alcohol and wine can not, after having an embarrassing experience, never want to experience a second time, so much so that he lost a drinking friend like me who likes to drink.

Many times, people will feel inappropriate in some small things there is no need to be calculating it is difficult to experience too many big things between people, the key is to present the attitude in some small things often to invisibly reveal the truth of a person's dealings with the world. Especially that kind of eat soft fear of hard mouth anyway, I do not like at all. Perhaps you are also from some small things to see the face of your blind date, you will feel that the pattern of such a person is too small and a little grumpy, and even feel no upbringing, so you do not want to continue to interact with such people. In fact, in the preferred marriage partner must follow their hearts, for the human level of consideration is very necessary.

There are times when we need to present a humble attitude, especially in the face of those who serve us, should learn to think differently. You can ask questions when you feel that the service is not good, but try to talk nicely. If you are talking to the other party, the other party not only failed to come up with a humble posture, and even to your attitude is not correct, then you are allowed to be angry at the other party. The point is that when the other party gives you feedback in a more sincere manner and also gives you as much as possible to meet your needs, why do you need to speak out against each other? In the face of good people, we should follow the attitude of peace, rather than relying on their service, in front of the other party to present a brutal and unreasonable attitude. That kind of bullying virtue is not promoted.

We are not at the tip of the pyramid, because we also have people to serve in the workplace. Ask yourself: what will you think when your boss or your client shows a rude and unreasonable attitude in front of you? Learning to respect others in life is not difficult at all, more often than not you show rude and unreasonable and can only show their lack of education. The main point: other people will judge your humanity from your daily behavior, and then in the mind give you the perception of whether you are a reliable person. Here to remind everyone: your attitude towards everyone will become the standard of review of people around you, no matter at any time, to show the side of understanding.

Post-editorial remarks.

We often go to some units to do business and will find such a phenomenon: the more people without positions, the more like to pose in front of you, while those in high positions, in turn, will show a minimum of courtesy. Can we learn from this what a truth? People live a lifetime, the height of their own mixed with their virtue has a very close relationship, or people often say: first learn to behave and then do a good job.

About life, it is not to let yourself live a slave, in any matter to hold back, at least in the other party does not present maliciously in front of you, there is no need to give each other a hard time, right? There are always people who show strength in front of people lower than their society but do not know that the watchers around you have long defined you as a clown. So, in the piece of being human, it is better to make yourself kinder.

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Dai do an

A person is not born to be defeated, you can destroy him as much as you can, but just can not defeat him.

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