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After the breakup

Don't have 3 kinds of behavior

By EkultmePublished about a year ago 7 min read
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After the breakup
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Even though we desire to get a lifetime of love, we can't deny that splitting up in love is more common than ever.

After the breakup

There is a saying: "Hearing about love, nine out of ten sad; hearing about the past, nine out of ten memories hurt".

In the coming years, you will understand that there are some people, even if they love again, two people will not have a good ending; there are some feelings, even if more profound, this relationship will not go on.

The thing about feelings is that they are never the result of a person's efforts, as long as one of them is ready to quit, it means that the relationship has come to an end.

When the feelings do not go on, you will choose to break up, and if it is a peaceful breakup, will not be each other's grievances, but rather dry and sharp like never appeared that way.

The most fear is that one party wants to break up, one party desperately trying to save, originally a good memory, in a variety of entanglement, become completely unrecognizable.

Those who are still in love, of course, are not willing to be broken up, there is nothing wrong with making a comeback, but some people want to save the relationship, but the wrong way, pushing each other farther and farther away, even the last of that love is buried.

After the breakup, these three behaviors are not only useless but also very costly, remember not to do.

01: phone harassment, MS bombing

There is a friend and the former three years of love, to the feelings of incompatibility as the reason for the breakup.

Two people, in the beginning, friends do like the former, just, the longer we get along, the more we find that the two people's three views are different, friends once chose to tolerate each, and then, can not stand the decision to break up.

On the day of the breakup, the former is also very crisp and clear, friends then felt that such an ending is quite good, after, each lives their own lives on the good.

Who knows, a week after the breakup, the former remorseful, called his friend, said he could not accept such a breakup, said he loved them very much love her, and said he was very aggrieved, and hope she can give him a chance again.

The friend has decided to let go of that relationship, so patiently advise him to it put down. But the ex not only did not stop such behavior but also intensified, phone harassment, text message bombardment, and word for word to tell their thoughts.

But these behaviors have seriously affected the daily life of friends, friends can only pull him, but the ex and change the number to harass her, and even, write a variety of small essays on the Internet to cry about their misery.

This thing passed more than a year later, and friends are still afraid to go back to a relationship and talk about that thing, friends are only left to sigh, even once good memories have become unbearable.

Like phone harassment and text message bombing, such behavior, in addition to making each other look down on you, there is no role.

Like those love words, a sentence of thoughts may be love, but a group of thoughts, it is easy to become abusive, and abusive most easily disgusted.

02: Halfway stop, stalking

Once read a news story.

The hero and heroine used to be a very loving couple, only, then broke up, but the man did not agree to break up, and has been desperately trying to salvage that relationship.

However, the woman's character is very strong, is the kind of character that says one or two, since the decision to break up, will not go back, will all their way to block, also with the man said very clearly, let him not waste effort.

Regardless of how men show goodwill, women continue to ignore them, men will feel that because their way is too mild, and expressed feelings are too weak, will not move each other.

Later, the man began to follow the woman to and from work, even in front of her home, her place of work and so she, to talk to her, let her give himself a chance, however, the woman more and more dislike him.

Until that one rainy night, the woman was in a bad mood because her work was not going well, and the man was still guarding her doorstep, stopping her, the woman was angry, then the two argued, the more heated it became until finally, the murder occurred.

Like the hero of the story, from the beginning of the wrong way to choose, to the later halfway stop, stalking, not only will not save the relationship but only make each other more disgusted.

In real life, many people are always prone to self-touching, they think that as long as they are cheeky stalking, the other party will rediscover their good, and the other party will be touched by their love.

But in reality, whether it is halfway stopped, or stalking, in the end, can only touch themselves. And the other party will be terrified because of being stalked and pestered, it is even less likely to be touched.

03: self-loathing, dying to live

I have a friend who has been morally abducted by his ex.

The former is a good-looking person, has strong work ability, good family conditions, in all aspects is considered a good girlfriend, but the former has a friend who particularly does not like the shortcomings, that is, too possessive.

At the company party friends, she did not allow to go; at her friend's friend's party, she did not allow to go; even at the family party, she did not allow to go.

At that time, someone also advised him that she was too much in love to be a grassroots person.

The friend's heart is half happy and half sad.

Because of the ex's strong, so he felt he had no personal space and time, even the cell phone address book of men and women, the ex asked carefully.

There are several times because of work communication with female colleagues, was the ex as flirting, the two cold wars for ten days.

Later, the friend felt he could not stand it and proposed a breakup.

On the third day after the breakup, friends received a call from the former parents, it turned out that the former could not accept the breakup, and is at home on a hunger strike, the former parents hope they can pretend to start over.

After all, it was a love affair, and friends do not want the two to end up in such an ending, they promised the parents of the former, once the former adjusts their mindset later, they will leave.

The reality is that it is not as good as you think.

Even if the friend is clear that the two are just pretending to get back together, the possessive nature of the ex still gives him a headache, he talked to his ex's parents about the problem, but the problem has not been answered.

Later, the friend proposed another breakup, but every time a breakup is proposed, the ex has to make a hunger strike or a suicide.

This kind of trick play more, the friend also really sees, later, no longer care about the ex, whether her phone or her parents' phone, is no longer heeded.

Like this, after the breakup of self-loathing, dying to live, will only make each other feel that once the payment is not worth it, surprisingly like this kind of people.

No one will like a person who can't even bear the loss of love, even if they used to like it, they will reconsider whether to continue to like it because of your behavior of such a drop in value.

A person who has you in his heart, will only hurt you, will only accept your retention, and a person who has no you in his heart, after the breakup will only want to stop bothering each other, each going forward.

"Life is not just like the first sight. The good feelings, the time has changed, and then want to regain, is a boat to seek a sword. It is better to let nature take its course and let love have its way. If you can't hold your son's hand and grow old with him, the rest of your life, there is a deep love can miss, is also good and comfortable."

Let the past become a good memory, but also live up to the love of a.

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