Affairs At The Office

I often sit and listen to wives say things like “All my husband do is go to work and come home”. Im not sure if that gives them a sense of security that because he is at work, he is being faithful. It does not happen that way. Especially if he has been known to cheat before. He still is. Just at work. Eighty-five percent of affairs start at work. You probably have a work sister wife and don’t even know it.

Men will GIVE their spouses that language that they are at work all day and come home. That is an attempt for her to acknowledge that he does not venture off course. He is being honest and respectable by working to make a living for his family and then going straight home. But listen, if your husband used to run around and go to clubs and cheat with other women, he still has those behaviors. Energy does not die, it gets transferred.

Work is safe. We all have to go there. Everyday. We spend more time with our co-workers than we do with our spouses. And it doesn’t matter what the women at work look like. Stop looking for the beautiful, young model. Yes, he will fuck her too. But don’t start to feel safe because you don’t “see” anyone there attractive. Neither does he. Its not about looks or attractiveness. Its about exchanging that energy. She does not have to be his “type” or even delicious. And when a man is hungry, he will eat what’s in the fridge.

Not all men are hounds. Yes, some are. But here is Cheating At Work 101 in its purest form.

It starts with crossing boundaries. This starts innocently enough as “How was your weekend?” Asking that enough times will conjure up a more in depth answer than “Fine”.

The woman is work becomes desirable because he is not playing “house” with her. There is nothing sexy about discussing bills, kids, car notes, laundry. She is not nagging or condescending. Just the opposite. She will notice his hair cut. That new shirt. Appreciate his stopping by her office to say hi. Actually enjoy his company, because honestly, women dont feel like the bullshit in their homes either.

The woman at work will remind him of who he used to be. No conversation about bills, kids, forced family gatherings. Being a husband and father is not WHO he is. Those roles can be suffocating for a man. The woman at work allows him to breathe….as himself.

Small moments of self disclosure turn into wanting to be in her company more. Then, “you eat lunch yet?”

Work affairs often don’t start out being bent over a desk with your panties pulled to the side. They are very subtle. Smiles. Sharing. Anticipating if they are at work today. A comfort that turns into trust that turns into security that turns into lust. Unlike the “task” of routine marital sex, daytime sex is the best. And there is nothing like sex you both know you’re not supposed to be having.

These types of situations become progressive from crossing boundaries to full blown affairs. At home, either the man will distance himself from his wife or become more angrily aggressive towards her. Work, lust, sex, and lies can become dangerous. Ask me how I know…