Have you ever been in a serious relationship where things seemed perfect? You both confessed your love for one another (or so you thought). You've made plans for your futures together, building strong bonds with each family, etc...
And then suddenly, in a blink of an eye, everything changes! You fall to your knees filled with tears, anger, fear, confusion. Your "man" cheated on you and now you're second guessing everything you've been through and shared with each other.
I've been through my share of heartbreaks and foul choices, but that hasn't made me less of a person nor have I condemned anyone for the actions that they have made, because let's face it... no matter how much time and effort you put into anyone and your relationship, each person is going to make their own decision to benefit themselves. So it's best you stop grieving and keep on reading, because you probably need to hear this more than I need to be saying it.
So, here are my nine main reasons why men cheat and why you shouldn't be moping around over some "boy."
80/20 Rule
First and most relevant reason is the 80/20 rule. A man will see something else in another woman, and forget how great you were. There goes that saying "You never know what you have, until it's gone."
He doesn't have the balls to be honest.
The guy wants out of the relationship, but doesn't have the heart or the balls to tell you. So he cheats until he gets caught and you leave.
Mr. "Big Timing"
Some men think that having more than one woman makes them more of a "man." It's all about power and control!
What she doesn't know won't hurt her.
Literally no good reason at all. Men think "why not?" and go through with it for the hell of it. They won't think twice about it. Making irrational decisions comes natural to them.
No Self-Esteem
Believe it or not, most men have such low self-esteem. Although it's not a major one, some men feel that having multiple women approach them boosts their confidence.
Thrill Seeker
Some men, if not all, look for excitement! They're bored with you! Maybe you're not doing something right. Or you just bring the same thing to the table every time. If you're not doing anything to make your relationship exciting, than he's going to find someone who does.
Can't Keep to Himself
Also not prevalent, but it happens... Sex addiction. One girl isn't always prepared for sex, and when that happens, another woman ALWAYS is.
"Cut him some slack." What is THAT!?
You females make it too easy for your man to cheat. I know you're supposed to TRUST him, but with the mentalities nowadays, you just can't! CHECK HIS PHONE. LOL!
He's just a little BOY.
FINALLY, last but not least, your man ain't S**T. He's a little boy who may never change. And you shouldn't sit through it and think you can change him. Like what my mother used to always tell me, "You can't raise a man."
Find your dignity, baby girl! Only you know your value and worth. You should NEVER settle for less than what you are. If you can learn to love yourself (in the humblest way possible), than finding the right man to treat you and do right by you will be of no hassle. Don't take this heartbreak as a reason to stop looking for love. Someone more suitable will come along, just be patient and humble.
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