8 Ways To Survive A Relationship Breakup

Relationship breakups are never easy, no matter how they go down or who you're dealing with.

Regardless of who initiated the end of the relationship, it's always painful to see your heart broken into a million pieces.

Learning how to survive a relationship breakup and come out on top can help you move on from past relationships and find love again one day.

We've collected eight ways to survive a relationship breakup that will help you heal faster and start fresh in no time!

1) Stop trying to predict the future

You're in control of your life, not fate.

When things don't go as planned, it doesn't mean that you should give up on everything and sit at home waiting for something to happen magically.

Remember: You have a purpose and a vision; you are not just taking up space on earth!

Don't let anything or anyone stand in your way if you want something wrong enough.

Instead of lamenting over lost opportunities or worrying about what will be, focus on what can be.

Tell yourself that every day is an opportunity to make something great out of nothing—it's your choice whether you let it be positive or negative.

So get busy living instead of planning for imaginary futures!

Most importantly, don't ever forget how much God loves you!

He cares so much about us that he sent his only son Jesus Christ to die for our sins so we could spend eternity with Him in heaven.

2) Start self-care

After a breakup, it's easy to be so preoccupied with your feelings that you forget to take care of yourself.

How can you possibly move on and create a happy life when you're focused on why they hurt you?

What could they have done differently?

The fact that it still hurts?!

There's no doubt that a breakup can be traumatic, but there is life after a relationship ends.

And, as unromantic as it sounds, one of your first steps should be towards self-care.

Self-care doesn't just mean treating yourself with kindness; it means taking time out for activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul.

It means surrounding yourself with people who love you for who you are, not what they want you to be.

It means making sure that your needs are met before those of others – because if we don't meet our own needs first.

3) Allow your feelings

Sure, you're not supposed to make yourself vulnerable to others when you start dating them, but that's not what I mean.

It's time to let your walls down.

Don't hide how you feel or pretend everything is okay.

Open up and talk about what you are going through with a professional listener or someone who will not judge (your best friend).

If nothing else, getting your feelings out in the open is healthy because it allows you to work through them and move on.

You can also gain perspective on things by looking at them from an outside point of view – it helps take some of that intensity away to think more clearly.

The more you try to ignore your feelings, the harder they will be to deal with later. Just face them head-on now before they become resentment and fester into something much worse.

That's why breakups aren't always a bad thing... sometimes people do need space and time apart from each other to grow individually.

4) Let go of what you can't control

Your ex. You're going to run into your ex from time to time, and that's okay!

But if you are still holding on to feelings of hurt or bitterness towards them, it might be best not to engage them in conversation.

It's important to remember that only you can change how you feel about a relationship, so let go of any resentment and take control of your emotions.

Letting go is hard, but putting yourself first during a breakup is vital for healing and moving forward with your life.

In addition, sometimes being around an ex can stir up old feelings and force you to re-evaluate whether or not they were suitable for you in the first place.

If seeing your ex causes you stress, anxiety, or triggers any other negative emotions, don't force yourself to interact with them just because it feels like the right thing to do.

Permit yourself to remove toxic people from your life who may cause harm or bring you down.

5) Don't make comparisons

Comparing your relationship to others is a bad idea, and you can't do it without making yourself unhappy.

Thinking about how other associations are different from yours may help you get over someone who has left you.

If your ex seems happy with his new significant other, remind yourself that it doesn't mean he didn't love you; it just means he loves her.

And if she starts doing things differently than you did in your relationship?

There's only one thing to do: let go of what was good about it because they've already moved on.

The sooner you realize that every relationship has its history, personality, and quirks, the better off you'll be.

If your partner won't accept these differences—or makes fun of them—you might need to reconsider whether or not he's right for you.

6) Be present in each moment

Sometimes, it can be easy to lose yourself in social media and technology.

Look at how much time you spend posting, liking, and scrolling!

When you're going through a breakup, use it as an opportunity to take a break from social media.

Instead of spending your spare time checking out what everyone else is doing on Facebook or Instagram, why not use that time by trying out some other activities that might get your mind off things for a bit?

Remember: your ex isn't missing anything - trust us, no one is sitting at home regretting lost time scrolling on their phone!

You don't need to constantly document every aspect of your life – if you want to share something, then do so; otherwise, focus on getting through each day.

7) Take a break from social media and technology

It's easy to get caught up watching relationship progress updates on social media or reading lovey-dovey posts and cute Instagram selfies.

So when a relationship ends, it's not uncommon to reach for your phone or computer - but these habits may be one of your worst enemies right now.

Social media and technology can trigger hurt feelings or make you feel jealous and obsessed with your ex.

If possible, stop checking their feeds altogether while you're going through a breakup - even if it hurts (we know).

It might not feel like it now, but blocking them from your day will help soothe your heartache.

In time you'll be able to check back in with their life - once you're ready for it again.

8) Talk it out

Perhaps more than anything else, communication is key to a good relationship.

So while you're going through a breakup, it's essential to keep that communication line open.

If you can't bring yourself to speak with your ex after you've broken up, talk to friends or family who can give you advice or lend an ear.

Sometimes talking about your feelings helps them get out of your head so you don't obsess over things that can't be changed.

If talking about it doesn't work for you or doesn't feel right for some reason (or isn't possible), then find other outlets for getting those feelings out -- writing in a journal or even working out are two suggestions from experts who help people get through breakups.

Keeping active and healthy during a breakup can also make you feel better.

And remember: It may not seem like it now, but one day soon, you'll look back on your breakup and see how far you've come!