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6 Ways To Cope With A Breakup

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6 Ways To Cope With A Breakup

The end of any relationship can be a painful experience, but if it was serious enough to lead to a breakup, you’re probably feeling pretty bad right now. You might not even know how to begin getting over your breakup, but there are several things you can do to help yourself through this difficult time and recover from the pain sooner than later. The following six ways to cope with a breakup are simple steps you can take to find your way out of the darkness and into the light again.

Stop Blaming Yourself

It may seem logical to blame yourself for your breakup. However, most breakups are caused by problems within a relationship, not just one person’s actions. You need to be willing to accept responsibility for your part in any issues that led to your breakup, but don’t be hard on yourself. Take some time to process what happened and why it didn’t work out before you jump into a new relationship. It will make you a more understanding and compassionate partner later on! Don’t Stay Too Long: The fact is, too many people stay in relationships well past their expiration date—and I believe it happens for two reasons. First, we want to think there could still be a chance of getting things back together with our partner—maybe if we try harder or something better comes along then we can get back together?

Stop Looking Back

Why do we tend to relive every single moment of our relationship with our ex? Whether you blame society or your parents, it’s time to let go. Stop looking back and start looking forward. Keep in mind that while you may have shared a beautiful period in your life with your ex, that doesn’t mean it will be repeated. It’s over, so accept it and move on. Maybe even write your ex a letter telling them everything you felt during your time together – but also make sure to focus on how much better off you are now as opposed to back then. Then tear up that letter, toss it out and never look at it again. (Awwwkward!) Sometimes closure is best served long distance! You can keep these feelings bottled up inside until they become toxic – or you can try seeing things from another perspective by putting yourself in their shoes.

Stop Comparing Relationships

One of the best ways to overcome a breakup is to accept that each relationship is unique and that there’s no need to compare one relationship to another. By keeping your focus on yourself, you can understand what happened in your last relationship and move forward with confidence in your next one. It’s about time we learn to stop comparing relationships as if our world would stop spinning if we don’t. Take some time after any breakup and read these quotes My advice to anyone who wants support is ask for it. I think people feel like they should be able to do it themselves or deal with their own pain quietly, which makes sense because we are such a tough culture, says Snyder. We're taught not to complain about things because others have it worse or 'it could always be worse.' But taking a little bit of extra help from someone who cares when you really need it?

Give Yourself Time to Grieve

It’s not unusual to feel low for a few days after a breakup, but you don’t want to let your emotions fester. Give yourself time to grieve and process your emotions, but then it’s also important to come up with a plan of action. Giving yourself time to be upset is one thing, but ruminating on how bad things are won’t help you get through it. The only way you can move forward is by actively taking steps toward recovery. So while grieving is necessary, avoid letting yourself slip into a spiral of sadness or despair—especially if you suspect that you might become prone to self-destructive behavior like substance abuse or reckless behavior that could jeopardize your career. Instead of wasting energy crying over what was, focus on building something new for yourself in its place.

Keep Moving Forward

In an immediate attempt to feel better, it’s easy to curl up in a ball on your bed and cry yourself to sleep for weeks on end. But getting over a breakup is about picking yourself up and getting back out there; surrounding yourself with friends who support you and distractions that bring you joy will speed up your recovery. Keep working, keep exercising, keep engaging with life—whatever you need to do to feel good again. You can do it!

Treat Yourself with Kindness

The road to recovery is not an easy one, but try not to put too much pressure on yourself. If you’re struggling, reward yourself with a break from your normal routine and give yourself some self-care time. Treat yourself as kindly as you would treat a friend in your situation. If a friend was going through a breakup, what would you say to them? Be that person for yourself! Be your own best friend when coping with a breakup.ubreakup. 2022 When my boyfriend cheated on me, I gave myself two weeks off from work and spent all of my free time eating ice cream in bed watching Netflix. u2022 –Betsy J., Facebook User (You can keep your usernames anonymous!) u2022 I listen to music because it relaxes me. Sometimes I buy myself flowers or even just stay home and watch TV alone so I don’t have to worry about anyone else but myself.

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