5 Wrong Reasons to Stay With a Man
People never change
Whether it's about marriages or long-term relationships, there are many cases in which the two partners try to save appearances and make the relationship work, although each of them is aware that somewhere there has been a rift in the relationship, which later it will materialize in a separation.
The psychological, moral, and emotional profile that we women have makes us, in most cases, the ones who make compromises and look for solutions to make the relationship work, although we are aware that our story will not have a happy ending.
So, what are the reasons why we choose to remain in a compromised relationship, even if we are not happy, and even more so, are we aware that separation is imminent?
Fear of loneliness
One of the most common reasons that cause us to settle down comfortably in a relationship and to refuse the prospect of a life that does not include the man next to us, with whom we have already become accustomed, is the fear of loneliness.
Questions about how we will manage on our own, how acute we will miss it, how hard it will be for us to learn again to be on our own or to have another relationship take place in our perception and we transform into vulnerable, fearful beings.
Well, the fear of loneliness is only a reflection of our fear of change and a consequence of the fact that the routine of having a man with us every day is comfortable and motivating enough to cause us to remain in a relationship that does not satisfy us.
We can indeed find happiness with a man, but that does not mean that we cannot manage on our own and be happy without having such a relationship.
Hope things will change
Whether it's the character and the behavior of the partner or the way the relationship is going, the hope that things can take a positive turn is often the engine that makes a relationship doomed to failure continue to work.
If you are in such a situation and especially if your partner does not respect you, is violent or indifferent, and shows you clearly that he is no longer interested in investing feelings about you, do not lie to yourself hoping that you will change him.
You have to accept that people rarely change radically, and for the better, and things depend on people.
The conclusion? Have the courage to break free from this vicious circle to make a beneficial change in your life.
The pressure of the surrounding conveniences
No matter how much perceptions have changed about the relationship between a man and a woman and how they choose to be together, the case of parents who wholeheartedly want to see their daughter laying the foundations of a marriage that lasts until old age is still current.
In addition to this constraint, the awareness that most acquaintances have serious relationships, most are married, and some have children, while you risk being left alone, involves unbearable pressure, which motivates you even more in stubbornness. to save your relationship.
Do not rush or force things, because, in the end, you will end up disappointed, a feeling that you can avoid if you treat the situation with reason and relaxation so that you accept it without seeing it as a tragedy.
The need for support
The mere presence of someone with us gives us a sense of security and leads us to the idea that if we need help, that person will be close to us.
This need for support coupled with the fear of loneliness gives rise to a false sense of security that we feel when we have a boyfriend, even in situations when he is not physically present. I am sure that you have experienced this experience many times, although, paradoxically, you were aware that your partner is no longer with you spiritually.
However, it is good to accept that, as beautiful as this feeling is when it is based on real motivations, it becomes so vicious and degrading when you insist on holding on to it, when in fact it does not rely on anything concrete.
Jealousy
Although it seems absurd that jealousy is one of the reasons to stay with a man, it is a natural reaction in the case of people emotionally involved. The explanation lies in the fact that one of the partners becomes the target and the other the manipulator.
Specifically, being aware of the shortcomings of the relationship and comfortable enough or indifferent enough not to break away from it, your partner will exploit your emotional weakness towards him and will make you more and more jealous, telling you about how courted he is, to make you want to get him back.
An unfair game, from which he has only one thing to gain, while you sink deeper and deeper into unhappiness, despair, resignation, and, paradoxically, into the stubbornness of staying close to him.
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