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5 Sure Signs You Are in a Bad Relationship

by Jocelyn Joy Thomas 9 months ago in marriage
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It’s okay to leave, the first step is admitting you should

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Love can be blind, but we don’t want to be so blind that we don't see important signs indicating we are in over our heads. A bad relationship doesn't happen overnight and there are many red flags along the way.

It can be difficult to admit that you are in an unhealthy relationship, understandably, you want so badly for things to work.

Take the time to consider these five signs if you suspect you are in a bad relationship. Leaving is hard, but staying is often impossible. Be sure to reach out to friends and family who can support you and help you with this decision.

Signs you are in a bad relationship

Feelings of doubt, consistently

While it’s not unusual to doubt a relationship from time to time, it’s a problem if you find yourself doubting it more than not. If you find yourself in a cycle of highs and lows, always coming back to that doubting place again, that’s a red flag.

Relationships are not easy but they shouldn't bring you continual doubt about whether or not you should be in one.

Broken promises

Having a partner who breaks promises is not going to help with doubts, it’s likely one of the reasons you may have them in the first place. Promises broken can be big or small, such as canceling plans or never moving to the next step in the relationship.

No one is perfect but if your partner makes a habit of saying one thing and doing another this is a red flag. Remember actions speak louder than words, so while they make promise after promise if they aren’t fulfilled it tells you where their priorities are.

Broken trust

Lying, cheating, acting suspiciously, or other behaviors lead to broken trust. This adds up and can make moving forward with your partner impossible. While giving 2nd, 3rd and even 4th chances might seem the compassionate, committed thing to do, it really is self-destructive behavior. When someone has shown you repeatedly that they cannot be trusted it is extremely unlikely they will change.

While it might be tempting to hold out for them to change, they are likely just saying what you want to hear so you give them another chance.

Boundaries are non-existent

If your partner likes to call you on their schedule never yours, make plans when it's convenient for them not you, or exhibit other types of blindness when it comes to being considerate you have a boundary issue.

Bad boundaries can also be experienced as them flirting with other people, having inappropriate connections with others online or in person, often with their ex’s. Interfering with your friendships and connections. Spying on you, lurking on your social media pages, and accusing you of having inappropriate connections.

If you feel as if you don't have any space, your boundaries have been violated.

Poor communication

No communication or bad communication makes for a confusing relationship. If your partner shuts you down when you try to explain your feelings, and you cannot speak your heart it’s a red flag. Or if they say everything is their fault when you bring up concerns, this is also an issue. It means they want to make you feel guilty for finding fault in the relationship.

Communication is the bedrock in any relationship and when it's poor or non-existent there’s going to be problems. There has to be give and take in relationships and that can only happen when both partners feel safe and confident enough to talk about how they feel.

If you find yourself in a bad relationship, the first step is to admit that you are in one. You can try counseling if your partner is willing, or just for yourself to help you cope with moving on. Reach out to your trusted friends and family, or join a support group.

Make a plan for leaving and stick to it. You matter, your well-being matters. It’s time to focus on yourself, not your partner or the relationship. It all starts with getting clarity, I hope this helps you in some small way. You are not alone.

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Jocelyn Joy Thomas

Writer, spiritual teacher, and travel enthusiast. Enjoying the journey! Join my mailing list and receive a free guide on How to Meet Your Guides in Three Steps!

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