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5 Signs of Emotional Abuse

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By Sabrina BoydPublished 2 years ago 3 min read
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5 Signs of Emotional Abuse
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Emotional abuse leaves no physical traces, but its impact is strong, painful, and destructive to the psyche. If when you receive a physical blow you can withdraw from the fight, here that in the case of emotional abuse, you are not aware of the situation and do not realize that you need help.

People who have been subjected to this type of abuse for a long time will need a lot of time to overcome the trauma and recover. Here are 5 signs that translate into emotional abuse and that we should learn to recognize and avoid!

Painful ironies

People who are used to emotionally abusing others are people who take great care of their public image and value the way they are seen by others. They are charming, friendly, spiritual, and attentive to those around them. Unfortunately, at first glance, it is difficult to discover this typology, but if you have spotted someone with these qualities around you, follow their steps.

If he is the kind of person who emotionally abuses others, then you will find him making small jokes about others and making fun of them. His goal is simple: he wants to be the center of attention and then he tries to minimize his opponents as much as possible.

If you meet the typology with a friend, you can withdraw from the relationship, but if your boyfriend masters it, then you will have to talk to him and force him to change his attitude towards you.

Dangerous empathy

We rejoice when those around us empathize with us, whether we are talking about a positive state or a negative one, but if the other person is not able to help us, then empathy can destroy us.

For example, you come back tired and stressed from work, and your partner, instead of preparing a relaxing bath and giving you a massage, starts accusing you and blaming you on various topics. These manifestations over time will make you lose your self-esteem and become easy to control and manipulate.

Inadequate comparison

Comparison with other people, especially if you always lose, it hurts in any relationship, whether it's friendship, love, or kinship. People who tend to compare do so out of a mental immaturity that prevents them from seeing the true value and letting themselves be guided by old patterns.

When you are compared to someone else, your psyche goes through a process of deep suffering, your self-esteem and ego suffer, and over time you will end up blaming yourself and disregarding yourself. The emotional abuser rarely uses this method unconsciously, in most cases he does it intentionally to make the other suffer, a kind of mental punishment.

The indifference with the mask

Emotional abusers do not put themselves in the place of others to try to understand them, at most they can sympathize with them superficially, but they do not connect with their reality, they do not want to see through the eyes of others.

But, in order not to be considered indifferent, they put on a mask of false empathy and throw your advice, look at yourself with pity. You should move as far away from a man as you can, no matter what place he occupies in your life, which does not give you the importance you need and does not understand you when you suffer. His actions make you vulnerable and impute gestures and attitudes that do not belong to you.

Self-esteem hit

People with low self-esteem are much easier to manipulate and control.

If your partner does not help you in this regard or even more so if he ridicules your tastes, your preferences, your plans, and your dreams, it means that you are dealing with an emotional abuser who all he wants is to keep you under control. his control. Why? To cancel you and get on him.

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