4 Tips to Bring Excitement Back Into Your Long Term Relationship
Here are four excellent tips for bringing some excitement back into your relationship.
Whether you met your partner at a social function or through online flirting, if you go on to enjoy a long and fulfilling relationship together there's one thing to be aware of. Complacency. Outwardly, it might seem as if things are coasting along nicely, but if you want to avoid the possibility of things turning stale, you need to think seriously about ways of injecting a little spark into your romance now and again. Here are four excellent tips for bringing some excitement back into your relationship.
Everyone loves being surprised
One way to recapture a sense of joy in your relationship is considering how you could surprise your partner. The crucial aspect of this activity is spontaneity. By all means, wait for a specific occasion such as a birthday or anniversary, but these gestures have even more impact when they are least expected. If you think the actual object of this surprise is something you need to dwell on, remember the possibilities are endless. A surprise is a surprise, whether it's an unexpected gift-wrapped bottle of scent left in some prominent place, or it's tickets to see a favorite band. Another good aspect of presenting these gifts is they can inspire a partner to feel like reciprocating, thus setting in motion a chain of exciting surprises.
Avoid euphemistic headaches
It might seem a little flippant to be joking about the old cliche of ‘sorry, I’ve got a headache,' at nighttime, but a surefire way of hampering a relationship is when either or both parties feel the need to make excuses for not being intimate. Try casting your minds back to the time when you were in the first flushes of love, and you were slaves to feelings of lust which could overcome you, maintaining a permanent smile on both of your faces. Put some excitement back into your relationship by setting time aside to express your feelings physically. There is no harm in establishing some kind of formal timetable about days where you can aim to have an early night, although spontaneity is also fantastic.
Keep complimenting
If you've been going out with your partner for some time, you might get to the stage where you feel it's no longer necessary to give compliments or whisper sweet nothings. But the fact is, everyone relishes compliments, no matter when they are given. If your girlfriend or wife has just come back from a hairdressing salon, rather than raising eyebrows when she informs you how much her treatment cost, go out of your way to praise how good she looks with her brand new hairstyle. Ditto when it comes to new items of clothing being revealed. It doesn't take much to offer compliments, whether that's praising fashion sense, makeup or indeed any other aspect, such as good news about a promotion at work, or whatever. But it will certainly reinforce feelings of satisfaction, and this will rub off on you.
Communicate meaningfully, and often
Any relationship will run the risk of turning stale if either party retreats into a shell and becomes too introspective. As expert from this site suggest - the key to maintaining an exciting bond is to keep communicating, whether means setting aside a particular time when you're together, and you can divulge your news and engage in banter, or you are sending each other flirtatious texts. When it come to those electronic communications, the golden rule is quality, not quantity. Rather than spending all day long exchanging frequent banal comments about traffic jams or what happened at work, write meaningful messages, peppered with heart emojis!
About the Creator
Jonathan Draper
I'm Chief Editor of relationship blog at Loveaholics.com.
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