4 Signs of Cheating In a Relationship

Many of us have gone through one of the worst things that you can feel. Cheating. Imagine being so in love with someone. You'd do anything for them. Their existence in many ways makes you whole. Their presence is like home. The love they give you touches your soul like a warm hug. The pain you have felt during the time you lived without them vanishes into pure bliss.

Then randomly, one day, they decide that they want to give the same intimacy you had sworn was based solely off of your connection to someone else. The amount of pain that brings to a person is so wrong. Cheating is emotional abuse. The lack of will power, the lack of love, the selfishness that you have to have to do such a thing is absolutely disgusting.

Some people love so hard that they take the cheating behavior from their partner and "deal" with it. Dealing with it though only internalizes the pain, causing resentment, fear, and paranoia. Everyone has a choice of course. I just don't think I would be able to live with someone or even love someone who had decided that my love wasn't enough.

The act of cheating can not only crush a person's spirit but it can also do detrimental damage to their self-esteem. That is something that can take forever for a person to rebuild. Along with that fact that most people who get cheated on find it hard to trust people moving forward. Rightfully so. I mean how would you feel going through life feeling on top of the world with someone who can so easily just decided to hurt you. I would have a lack of trust in humans after that point too. Cheating these days almost feels like it's a second nature to some people.

Some will go to great lengths to hide their infidelities when in reality it is much more simple to just remain faithful or break up. Here are a few hints that your partner may be stepping out on the relationship.

Intimacy Fades

This doesn't always mean infidelity. Sometimes people do have times in their relationship where other things are happening and it causes a lack of intimacy. However, this can be a sign of infidelity as well. If you and your significant other have gone from very passionate tales in the sheets to barely even basic signs of affection something could definitely be wrong. Intimacy in any relationship is needed in some form, not only sexual. When things begin to fade you may want to start asking yourself if other aspects of the relationship seem off.

Max Security On The Cellphone

Most people do have password protected phones. A lot of relationships do just fine without either partner having each other's passwords. Some even willingly give each other their passwords. However, things begin to become fishy when at every turn your significant other is facing their phone away from you when on it, constantly having tabs on where their phone is, or even getting defensive when you ask to use or see their phone. Now, it is true, you don't have anything if you don't have trust. There is a clear difference when your partner is clearly acting strange when it comes to their phone.

Random Accusations

When you know you've done nothing wrong you have nothing to hide and in turn nothing to prove. If your significant other randomly starts to accuse you of cheating it might be their guilty conscience eating at them for the things they have done. It would be one thing if you had given them doubt but when you truly have nothing to hide and they are accusing you of cheating that can be a sign that they have thought about stepping out or already have done so.

Gaslighting

Generally when your partner asks you a question it is easy to answer then you aren't hiding something. If your spouse or partner makes you feel crazy for asking questions or somehow turns the tables back on you that is a serious problems. Defensiveness when it comes to asking questions is an answer in itself.

The Takeaway

Many people go through these things within their relationship without even knowing it could be a sign that something is terribly wrong. Take the time to figure out what has gone wrong in your relationship, don't take words for what they are if the actions do not match. Protect yourself.