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38 New Lessons of 37

38 is coming…

By Kent BrindleyPublished 2 years ago Updated 2 years ago 3 min read
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38 New Lessons of 37
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Hello.

September 8, 2022, is swiftly approaching.

This means something to a man born September 8th, 1984.

Journey with me as we explore 38 Lessons of (technically) trip #38 around the sun.

1. Yes, year “zero” WAS, in fact, my FIRST trip around the sun. Prove me wrong.

2. Some friendships are only meant to last for a season. Others are meant to last a lifetime for a reason. Know the difference and recognize which friendships are always worth pursuing.

3. An apology is meant for personal wrongdoing. You can be SYMPATHETIC toward a bad day or the harm of someone else’s words or deeds; “I’m sorry “ is best reserved for YOUR faults.

4. Harm and wrongdoing require INTENT; or at least obstinacy about apologizing.

5. Truly listen to others’ stories.

6. Family bloodlines do not always erase LEGITIMATE wrongdoing.

7. Platonic friendships that are important enough to you are worth preserving by respecting boundaries.

8. If you love someone enough as a friend, and they have clearly stated that that’s ALL they’ll ever be to you, don’t risk losing that.

9. No; not everyone’s a hugger. Ask first; and read the room each subsequent time. You are in fact a human being; not an octopus.

10. Ask the name of your bartender/server; then try to use it when asking for/thanking them for something.

11. Most communication is nonverbal.

12. Pay fairly strict attention when the folks nearest and dearest to you feel the need to correct you.

13. Some day, my princess will come. It’s MY job to allow us both to determine when it’s time to “put a crown on it”and make her my queen (via exchanged “I Dos”).

14. Yes; the guy dreams about HIS wedding day…

15. …same goes for dreaming about starting a family.

16. Social awkwardness can sometimes cause discomfort for those around you; it happens.

17. Simply being socially awkward does not erase the personal responsibility of AWARENESS for the feelings/reactions of those around you.

18. Yes, there are karaoke bars; they simply aren’t EVERY bar you walk into that is playing great 80s rock or 90s country.

19. Music and film tastes can be subjective.

20. Be dependable and reliable to your coworkers and customers.

21. It’s not a weakness to lean on your coworkers sometimes when you need the help. Just return the favors for them.

22. Sometimes, a friendship comes along that means a lot more to you. “More” is either worth PURSUING; or, if they’re important enough to pursue, they’re important enough to be given their space and their own time. But which does the situation warrant…?

23. Being besties with the gorgeous bar beauty runs the nominal risk of becoming taxing on your heart AND wallet.

24. Being besties with the woman you want to pursue WITHOUT having dated them first is a fast track to the “Friendzone.”

25. Sometimes friends are all that you’re meant to be. I repeat the question, “Is a friendship so bad; and is it really worth losing because nothing else is there?”

26. A surprise birthday card can really help turn someone’s life around when they’re going through life’s transitions.

27. Sometimes, you have to be happy when life starts going better for the people that you care about the most; even if it goes against your own ambitions.

28. Someone else’s happiness is not always about yours.

29. Most meaningful friendships and relationships have little room for conflicting egos.

30. Let your yes mean yes and your no mean no.

31. …Yeah; HER no should probably be read as no too.

32. You may be asked to leave your comfort zone.

33. You’ll sometimes be the groomsman long before you’re the groom.

34. The groomsman has a long day in front of him.

35. There’s no real timeline on (the license/the car/the girlfriend/the better community/the dream job/etc.)

36. Be happy for friends’ successes. You’d like them to celebrate with you for yours…

37. A man can execute social foibles over caffeine and water too. And which beverage should I blame for personal behavior first…?

38. Yes; I have outgrown enjoying NEW cartoons with childlike wonder. REVISITING old childhood favorites is more like “seeing old friends again…”

Thanks for reading; and thank you, Vocal, for being a part of another trip around the sun…

See you soon…

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About the Creator

Kent Brindley

Smalltown guy from Southwest Michigan

Lifelong aspiring author here; complete with a few self-published works always looking for more.

https://www.instagram.com/kmoney_gv08/

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  • Babs Iverson2 years ago

    Fantastic advise!!!💖💕

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