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3 Things to Never Say or Do to Your Woman

It may not look like we care, but we care too much to say anything.

By Sara AuldsPublished 2 years ago 4 min read
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3 Things to Never Say or Do to Your Woman
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Guys, if you really love your special lady, here are a few things to avoid saying or doing to us ladies so you don't get the death look or silent treatment. It really isn't that hard. Over all, it's really just a matter of respect. It may not seem like much to you, but it means the world to us when we know that we're respected and appreciated.

1. Talking over us or interrupting mid-sentence.

Personally, this is a huge pet peeve of mine. It isn't so much that it annoys me, because it's more annoying when its done on purpose; it's tells us ladies that what he has to say is more important and not respecting our thoughts and ideas. I have to remind my boyfriend of this, not as often as I did when we first started dating, but occasionally he'll get excited and interrupt me. He doesn't usually realize it until after he's already started talking. Ladies, your response to this action also has an effect on how often he does it. I admit, I can be petty when it comes to my response after my boyfriend has butted in, but if you don't follow up after your man has done something to disrespect you then he'll keep doing it because subconsciously his brain is telling him it's okay to keep doing it without thinking twice.

Ladies, follow up with something like this.

"Babe, I appreciate your input, but you didn't give me the chance to finish," This gives them a positive and a negative without sounding angry or making them feel bad because they "unknowingly" hurt you.

or another reply could be:

"Honey, that is a great idea, may I finish sharing my thought?"

Some of you might think, why do I need to ask for permission to finish what I had already started?

Well, you're not really asking for permission, but indirectly stating what the problem is. Although your man may give you a Yes as his response, this also gives him the opportunity to realize his mistake and apologize.

You want to let your partner know of things that bother you because otherwise it's going to build and build and then suddenly you'll lash out with an overflow of emotion and you may not be able to fix it. Catching and fixing problems in the moment is the best way to resolve issues, like interruptions, in the bud before they become hatreds.

2. "You're too sensitive"

First of all, everyone is sensitive, pointing out the level of sensitivity in your girl isn't going to fix anything. As a matter of fact it will make it worse. Secondly, I'm sure we're all thinking about the same time of the month where these words are usually said whether it's during, right before, or right after. The flood of emotions hit and us ladies can't control it. Guys, listen. Us ladies can't control it. The emotions, the "Aunt Flow" visiting, the food cravings, the mood swings, etc.

Men, do your lady a favor instead of pointing out the one insecurity we all have each month. Indulge her with her favorite foods, snacks, flowers, movies, plush toys, etc. All we want is peace, comfort, and a lot of Tylenol to make the cramps go away. Cuddles and kisses are nice too as long as you don't overwhelm us; that could lead to a mood swing when we feel like you're going overboard and it feels ungenuine and more of a "have to."

3. "What do you want for dinner?" / "Where do you want to go for dinner?"

As cliche as this sounds, yes, these two questions actually bother us. Most of the time we don't actually know what we want, but when given options we will tell you what we're not in the mood for. It's really simple. We associate thoughts and emotions same with emotions and food.

Also, men, let me tell you a little secret…

More often than not, we resort to saying “I don’t know” or “whatever you want to do” because we want everything!

A burger from Burger King, with a side of McDonald’s fries, and a slush from Sonic, and mozzarella sticks from Arby’s. That’s what we want. we want a little bit of everything. Ladies can naturally be overthinkers and so we think that we're being gluttonous, so we want you to decide where we're going or doing because we don't want to sound like monsters.

Instead, approach your lady with an already preselected choice of what you’re good with. For example, “I was thinking pizza, Taco Bell, or Arby’s. Do those sound good to you?” This way, it reduces it to a either a yes or a no first, and then we’ll follow up with which one actually sounds good. Guys, always have back up options. If she says no, then you’ll want to stay calm and ask “okay, what about Chinese or IHOP?” Or you fill in the blank with your next selection. Sometimes we just need to be fed little bit of information so we don’t have to think through the millions of food options there are.

Guys, I hope this helps some. Us ladies really are simple beings, we just need a little patience, love, and grace.

*Tips are appreciated, not required :)

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About the Creator

Sara Aulds

I am a photographer and videographer from Cincinnati, Ohio. I write as a hobby and capture reality as a profession.

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