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3 Reasons Why Ghosting Is a Good Thing

by Heart Centered Universe 4 years ago in advice
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I know, I know. Hear me out! Ghosting really is a good thing. Watch the video to find out why!

This week's episode is all about ghosting. Why it's a good thing, why it's here to stay, and why you should just get used to it already.

OK—right now I know you're thinking: how can ghosting be a good thing when it feels so crappy?

In case you've never heard of ghosting, it is defined as the sudden ceasing of all communication with someone you're dating in the hopes that that person will just "get the hint." OUCH.

Look, the reality is that ghosting just plain sucks. It feels crappy to get ghosted, and it feels even crappier to have to ghost someone.

As much as ghosting BLOWS, it's just something that we're going to have to accept as part of our strange dating culture.

BUT, in my opinion, I think ghosting is a good thing. Before you make any snap judgements, hear me out!

Here are the 3 reasons why ghosting is GOOD.

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1. You DO NOT owe an explanation to anyone for anything!

For those of us who are "too nice," we often feel the need to give explanations as to why we don't want to do any one particular thing.

For example, if one of your friends asks you to help her move, and you simply don't feel like it, you're allowed to say NO and not give any explanations as to the reason WHY.

Saying no to anything DOES NOT need to be followed up with an explanation. It's a waste of time and a waste of breath!

The same thing applies to dating. Let's say you went out with a lovely man or woman (depending on what you're into) and you just feel like the two of you don't have anything in common, you're not compatible, or you don't have any chemistry.

Listen, NOWHERE is it written that you HAVE to go out with that person again.

2. You WON'T get the TRUTH.

If you track down that person that ghosted you and DEMAND to know why, you probably won't get the truth.

So you won't get the truth, but you will get a slew of other irrelevant excuses like: "I'm just not ready for a relationship," or this is a good one: "You're too good for me" or blah blah blah, whatever else pops into their head at that moment.

3. If you DO get the TRUTH, most likely it will hurt your feelings!

Listen, the reason that he is not into you, or she is not into you, most likely has nothing to do with you and is probably something that you cannot change.

For example, let's say you're a curvy woman, and you track down the guy that ghosted you and he tells you that he only dates women size 6 and under! Wouldn't your feelings be HURT? Would you like to STARVE yourself for the rest of your life just so you can date that douchebag?

The answer is, of course, NO.

Wouldn't you rather find a man who loves curves and more importantly, loves YOU exactly the way you are RIGHT NOW? I thought so!

The next problem with this scenario, is that if you ask the ghoster what it was that they didn't like (about you), it's quite possible that it's something that you can't change or wouldn't want to change!

Let's say that you're a guy, and you track down a woman that ghosted you and she tells you that your laugh is "really annoying." Well, what are you going to do, change your laugh every time something is funny? OF COURSE NOT!

NO!!! That's YOUR laugh, and you don't have to change it!

I'm a huge advocate for self-improvement, but the truth is that you are who you are and that's never going to change. But the BEST part is that you don't have to change ANYTHING in order to find LOVE!

There is someone out there who will LOVE YOU just the way you are!

Of course, there are some exceptions to this where I don't think that ghosting is the best way to go. Let's say that the two of you are in an exclusive relationship and are calling each other your significant others. Then the mature thing to do would be to break up face-to-face.

Keep up with me!

Thank you SO MUCH for watching this week's episode. Please don't forget to subscribe to my channel so you don't miss a thing!

And if you have a question you'd like me to answer, shoot me an email [email protected] and remember: NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE, YOU DESERVE TO HAVE LOVE IN YOUR LIFE!

You can follow me on Instagram @savvysinglegirl and Twitter @savvysinglebook.

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Heart Centered Universe

My name is Rebecca J. Brock. I'm a Writer, Mother and Real Estate Agent based in Miami Beach, FL. My blog is about what I feel called to share with the world🌍 My Ultimate Life Goal is to be Happy and VIBE HIGH! ⭐️❤️ www.rebeccajbrock.com

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