aDo you want to know if you're actually experiencing some telltale signs that you’re in love? Can't get someone out of your head? Do you find yourself daydreaming about them when you should be working? Imagining your futures together?
Well then you are like most people in new budding romances. You typically wander the streets and others spot you smiling to yourself as if you’re in on some kind of secret?
You catch yourself sitting alone wondering and thinking this one's special. When we're in love, more dopamine is released in the brain. This new found focused attention is also thought to result from elevated levels of central dopamine, as well as a spike in central norepinephrine. Which is a chemical associated with increased memory in the presence of new stimuli. It explains that can’t-eat, can’t-sleep feeling of new romantic love.
When we are falling in love, the dopamine levels in our brains increase because we are expecting or experiencing pleasure. These mood swings that are often experienced parallel the behavior of drug addicts, according to a 2017 article in the journal.
Often times, love can make you feel like you’re in a fairy tale. Falling in love can border on obsession. We reiterate conversations multiple times with others and fantasize about our lover morning, noon, and night. Our friends begin to think that we are obsessed, and for good reason: The sudden drop in serotonin at this early stage matches the levels of those with obsessive-compulsive disorder.
Despite the intensive feelings that accompanies the state of new love, we also become a bigger and better version of ourselves: open, trusting, loving, generous, present, patient, and forgiving.
In fact, scientists have pinned down exactly what it means to "fall in love." In this article we break down the scientific research backed signs that prove that you are falling in love! Here's the signs...
- You're intensely curious about them. ...When we fall in love, we can expand our view of our self, who we see ourselves to be. and we tend to “study our beloved's every move, gesture, and word with steadfast interest, keen to know everything about this fascinating, one-of-a-kind creature, ,” says Clara Burley, Psy.D., a clinical psychologist in the U.K.
- You feel their pain. ...Love can make you feel attuned to your partner’s needs. When they feel happy, you feel happy. When they feel sad, you feel sad. “Your love is growing when you have an increased sense of empathy toward your partner, says Macie Roberts, Clinical sex therapist in Toronto.
- You're more adventurous... Love can make us more daring and open to new experiences. There’s a reason you suddenly feel open to trying homemade sushi or wearing yellow. It’s love, baby!
- You're full of date ideas. ...you’ll find any excuse to spend more time with them. From exploring the city to spending the night in to Netflix and chill. You instinctively want to go on adventures together and genuinely want to learn more about each other by having shared experiences, and this increases the good feelings associated with newness.
- You forget your other priorities....Another sign of falling in love is wanting to spend all our time with our partner, sometimes excluding our friends. They take precedent over your life. We’ve all had a friend or few who vanishes the minute they start entertaining a new budding romance. This might even be you.
- You can’t stop smiling...We often experience ‘butterflies’ in our stomach, feelings of excitement, and not being able to stop smiling,. The happier we feel, the more we smile, and the more we smile the happier we feel.”
- Focusing on the positive. ... Its no secret that new relationships bring out a softer side of us. When we are truly falling in love we tend to focus on the positive qualities of our beloved partner, while overlooking his or her negative traits.
- You feel anxious and worried...We experience what’s called ‘attachment panic’. It’s normal to feel slightly hesitant when you’re falling in love. “We can experience insecure and anxious feelings. This is proven to be true because when we start to bond, our attachment systems are activated, which pulls us to seek proximity and closeness.
- Emotional instability. ...falling in love often leads to emotional and physiological instability. You bounce between exhilaration, euphoria, increased energy, sleeplessness, loss of appetite, trembling, a racing heart and accelerated breathing, as well as anxiety, panic and feelings of despair when your relationship suffers even the smallest setback.
- You're glued to your cell phone... We can be prone to checking our phones to see if they’ve messaged and analyzing the words they used in their reply,
- Intensifying attraction... Falling in love often brings about a form of passion for your significant other that is involuntary and uncontrollable. Infatuation usually occurs at the beginning of relationship when sexual attraction is central. Love can be described as feeling of intense affection for another person.
- You crave sex. ...When falling in love, we are turned on like a megawatt light bulb. This is why anyone who has spontaneous sex on a grand piano is probably in love. The power of testosterone and dopamine create an arousal spike and lower inhibition. We are willing to have sex nearly anytime and anywhere
- You feel like moving really fast—or slow. ... You find yourself trying and loving their hobbies and getting more out of your comfort zone and having fun while doing so.
- You enjoy sex more... Although this could be for several reasons, You might know you are in love when a sexual experience feels better or more fulfilling. You're also able to be more vulnerable and say what you do and do not like directly to your partner, trusting your partner in the bedroom, and not feeling like you will be judged.
- Planning a future... New love can engage your imagination. “You begin envisioning your future together and wanting to make further plans with them, starting a family and living happily ever after.
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