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10 Reasons Why Your BFF Is Your Soulmate

by Ossiana M. Tepfenhart 5 years ago in friendship
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Your BFF is your soulmate—and maybe that's why so many people marry their best friends.

In a "relationship world," friendships are often neglected, ignored, and set aside as "not as important." This is a shame, if you ask me. A lot of people tend to forget how important friendship is, until the moment when they realize how badly they need friends.

The funny thing is that romantic relationships rapidly fail more often than they succeed, but friendships tend to remain successful fairly frequently. Friendships also don't involve the need for good looks, and are much less likely to end in abuse.

Friendship doesn't die the moment that you gain weight, or get affected by you having extra friends. If you really think about it, friendship is a lot "purer" a form of companionship than anything else. Maybe that's why a common belief is that your BFF is your soulmate.

I often think this might actually be the case for many, if not most, people I know. After all, a lot of people marry their best friends and seem pretty darned happy about it.

Make no mistake about it, there's a lot of reasons to believe that your best friend really is the soulmate you've been wanting. Here are some you might notice in your own life.

Besties see you when you're not looking your best—and they don't care.

We all have that one moment when we just look like death warmed over. Be it from a killer hangover from that one party, endless crying over a breakup, dealing with a bad date, or just from having a day when you feel like raising your middle finger to beauty standards, your best friend saw you and did not care.

How many times have you had a date visibly look disappointed when they saw you not looking too good? Your best friend will never do that, because you're always awesome to them. That's a good reason why your BFF is your soulmate, don't you think?

If shit hits the fan, you can count on your best friend to stick by you.

There's a reason why people say that lovers come and go, but friends stay forever. More often than we want to admit, it often takes a single seriously bad crisis to have a partner bail on you. The worst part about it is that you often find out your partner's a flake when you need them the most.

Your friends, though? They'll pull through.

You two have a secret language of your own.

No, I'm not talking about a code language like Pig Latin. I'm talking about all the inside jokes you two have together—and knowing what "that look" means when they turn and look at you when that one guy shows up at your favorite hangout.

Real soulmates can speak to each other on a level others can't. That includes knowing what each partner means when they have a certain look or phrase they say.

You always have a fun time with your bestie.

A good reason why you might want to believe your BFF is your soulmate is because of what soulmates are supposed to be. Soulmates are supposed to be a source of joy, fun, and enrichment.

A best friend is always going to be down for a good time, and always has that one magical way of cheering you up. Not many people in your life can do that, which makes them a really special person in your heart.

Isn't that part of the reason why drinking wine with friends is so much fun, or why even doing something as simple as taking a walk seems epic when you do it with friends?

Then there are all the fun memories you get from the time you have together, too...

If you think about it, part of having a soulmate is being able to talk about all the fun memories you have together. With your bestie, that means all the parties, mall outings, and Netflix binge-watching sessions you have. What's a soulmate without the ability to ask, "Remember when...?"

Those memories are part of what make you a dynamic duo, and what make you two so awesome together.

Like soulmates should, you have a sixth sense about your best friend.

Ever have a moment where you just know your best friend isn't feeling very good, or that something great happened to your bestie? You're definitely not alone in that sense. Call it a sixth sense, or just BFF intuition, but if you ask me, that's a good sign your BBF is your soulmate.

To be able to get that kind of vibe from far away, your souls have to be connected. If you get "spidey senses" about your best friend without ever having to check your phone, you're soulmates.

Unlike lovers, your bestie won't get jealous if you have another friend.

Jealousy isn't a sign of love; it's a sign of needing to possess someone. That's why jealousy is often a sign that abuse will happen in a relationship. Friends aren't jealous of you hanging out, though, and that says something.

Though some might disagree, I see that as yet one more reason why your BFF is your soulmate. They love you enough to share you with the world and be happy to see you happy while you're chatting to other peoples.

A bestie always wants the best for you.

The funny thing about some of the people you might end up talking to on Tinder or even dating for a while is that they don't always want the best for you—or even really care about what you want. Your best friend will never be that way with you.

With real friends, they will end up hating anyone who does you wrong with a passion. During a bad breakup, the person who breaks a bestie's heart turns into Public Enemy #1.

That being said, they understand that wanting what's best for you means acknowledging what you want may be different than what they would want. So, they'll listen when you say what would make you happy, and will cheer you on as you reach your goals time and time again.

You always know you can tell them anything without judgement.

One of the best reasons why your BBF is your soulmate is because you can tell them ANYTHING, and you know you're never going to hear judgement from them. You know they trust you, will keep your secrets, and will be there for you regardless.

If you tried that with typical dates, it would not work out well for you. So, if you want to find what real love looks like, take a look at what your relationship with your best friend is like.

Oh, and they also will never say, "I told you so."

Lastly, your BFF is your soulmate because they love you unconditionally.

They don't care how much money you make, what you look like, or if you're seen with the right crowd. The reason why they're your best friend is because you both see the awesomeness in each other.

Yes, they may let you get away with stuff that normally shouldn't fly, but more often than not, it's because they know you well enough to know that you're good enough to warrant a pass on certain things.

They've seen you at your highs and seen you at your lows, they don't care. They're just happy to be in your life, and that's why best friends will always be soulmates.


About the author

Ossiana M. Tepfenhart

Ossiana Tepfenhart is a writer based out of NJ. You can message her via Twitter on @bluntandwitty or via Instagram on @ossiana.makes.content. She's always looking for freelance work and collabs!

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