The Reason He's Not Making You Climax

First, let's start off by saying that everyone wants a good time, but in order to have a good time, there has to be some type of work. Sex isn't about jumping on one another and thinking that things are going to just happen. There has to be a motivator that increases that feeling of being turned on. Some may lack the knowledge that sex isn't a selfish thing while in a relationship. You must learn your partner's wants & needs. In order to get these out the way, you can ask them directly how they like sex. So that in the future, it won't be a hindrance to your sex life.

One reason he may not make you climax is that he's not being spontaneous enough. Maybe suggest different things like; kissing, or biting your neck. He can't read your mind. But maybe even be the captain and start to show how fun you can be and he'll start to tag along. Try to not also plan sex, when people do that it takes the fun out of things feeling natural. Let him naturally come to you because he wants a piece of the pie. Sex should feel like a stress reliever, not like a burden.

When you have a partner, life can start to feel boring and stagnant. He may not feel like doing roleplay after a long day of work or hanging out with the guys. However, sometimes a little roleplaying can go a long way. It is fun when you can create different scenarios and also this helps get those juices flowing in both parties. Try dressing up as his favorite cowgirl and see how long you can ride his bull. Changing the area where you can be beneficial as well. Maybe next time try the shower, or the balcony lol; I mean as long as you feel comfortable with that. Changing the atmosphere brings a different feeling to the body.

Another reason why it's a bit harder for him to please you is that he isn't talking to you. Some females love sex talk while in the moment. But it could also play a big part in climaxing for you. He may not feel comfortable with doing a bit of dirty talk in the beginning, but that's okay. He can learn to practice with you and before you guys do anything he can use some of those words to get you turned on for the next thing. Sexting is another form of dirty talk and he should also learn to do it just for fun.

In the bedroom, it's okay to try different things. There are a million different toys to help with any stimulation or just play. If he is uncomfortable with using them, then slowly try to introduce them because he can only say no too many times. Toys are created to do the job for us and ultimately they are one of the best man-made inventions.

He may not be touching you correctly as well. If you find that your man isn't doing something right while you are being intimate it should be your goal to always fix it. You don't want your man doing something too hard or slow that you can't get jiggy with. Men only feel what they can feel, they don't understand that we are very sensitive in certain areas, which is why correcting the error is the key to helping him understand how it's supposed to be done.

Maybe he feels like he's worthless or you're not turned on by him so he's embarrassed. If that is the case, you can give him reassurance that he's the hottest person on earth and you wouldn't want him more than anyone else. Men sometimes have emotions that make it harder for them to speak about because they are men. So they feel as though they can't speak about these feelings, so make sure his mental state is okay and that he's in that negative mind frame.

The very last one is to make sure that your man's body is healthy and that there is no medical issue causing him to fail to become his full potential. There could be other factors like stress or something bigger causing these issues between you two. I hope this can help your relationships flourish. Happy Holidays!