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How To Make Anal Sex More Enjoyable

If your partner loves it and you're kinda "bleh" about going in the out door, don't panic. There are ways to make anal sex more enjoyable.

By Ossiana M. TepfenhartPublished 7 years ago 4 min read
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Anal sex is not for everyone. In fact, there's a pretty large percentage of the population who are absolutely not about assplay of any sorts. There are others, though, who like the concept of anal — but don't really get into anal sex as much as they could.

If you have a partner who loves anal, and you're just ambivalent towards it, you might want to know how to make anal sex more enjoyable for the both of you. Here are some tricks I personally recommend for people who want to have more fun with anal.

First off, don't have anal sex if you don't want to have it.

There's a difference between being ambivalent towards a sex act and not wanting it. If you're not into anal sex at all, or if anal sex makes you uncomfortable, you shouldn't ever feel pressured into it.

Any partner that disrespects your boundaries, or keeps pushing you to try to cross them, is not a partner you should be with. In fact, this is one of the best signs that you need to drop them like a rock.

One of the smartest ways to make anal sex more enjoyable is to actually get into training your body to enjoy anal sex. If it's too tight back there, or you don't know how to relax into anal sex, it will probably hurt.

So, getting into it by using butt plugs and fingers can really help you learn to enjoy anal sex. There are plenty of guides that tell you how to train yourself to be better at anal, so we're not going to get into detail here.

All I'm going to say is that it's worth the work, especially if you have a tendency of enjoying larger partners.

Think about anal sex in a different way.

One of the best ways to make anal sex more enjoyable is to reframe the way you think about it.

Stop thinking of anal as "dirty." Your butt is actually a self-cleaning part of your body — unlike a vagina. Moreover, your body has a lot of healthy bacteria that helps prevent infections. If you clean up back there, then you really should't have any issue.

Moreover, anal sex can be a really hot concept if you think about it. It's wild, there's a certain element of dominance and submission to it, and there's a lot of sexy taboo fun involved in it, too. If you get into the mental side of anal sex, then you'll probably find it to be a lot more fun when you do get into it.

Foreplay is crucial.

A lot of people cannot have anal sex without foreplay — and who can blame them? It takes a lot of easing to get your back door loose enough to be able to take someone in there. Foreplay will help you relax your muscles down there, and it also has the added perk of heightening your senses and getting you aroused.

Though it's absolutely not mandatory, it's a good idea to incorporate sex toys when you're getting warmed up. After all, they can help get you into the kinkier side of anal sex.

Speaking of foreplay, it's also important to lube up your anus if you're going to have anal sex. Not only does lubrication make anal sex more enjoyable, it also can help prevent tears, disease transmission, and discomfort.

If you're into BDSM or role play, use it in your anal play.

BDSM and role play can make anything a little bit hotter, and that means that the right "scene" can help make anal sex more enjoyable for both parties. As many BDSM fans can tell you, going into "sub space" can really help get you into the idea of having anal sex.

That being said, heavy kink isn't for everyone. Some people will actually balk and get really grossed out by it — and anything they associate with it. So, use this tip if and only if you tend to enjoy being a freak in the sheets.

Work on confidence.

Okay, this tip isn't just about how to make anal more enjoyable — it's about how to make sex more enjoyable. You can't really enjoy sex to your fullest extent if you feel ashamed about your body.

Do whatever you have to in order to pump up your confidence. Work out, go dancing, have a spa day, or even get a more supportive partner, if that's what it takes. A little confidence can go a long, long way when it comes to having fun in bed.

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About the Creator

Ossiana M. Tepfenhart

Ossiana Tepfenhart is a writer based out of NJ. You can message her via Twitter on @bluntandwitty or via Instagram on @ossiana.makes.content. She's always looking for freelance work and collabs!

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