Ask a Fetish Personality: Casey Carter
From killer fetish books to awesome photoshoots, Casey Carter slays it. Here's what happened when I spoke to her.
I first met Casey Carter at Brooklyn's Sexpo, where we immediately clicked over a conversation about highlighter. It didn't take too long for us to be laughing up a storm, compare notes on favorite merchants, and also just talk about the BDSM scene as a whole.
Right off the bat, I knew Casey was a special person.
She has what I'd call a delightfully infectious personality. She's the type of person who can get everyone smiling, relaxed, and chatting it up—and yes, she brings that energy into every room she enters. I knew I wanted to interview her.
When I asked her to do an interview, she was kind enough to oblige. Here's what I learned about one of the hottest fetish personalities in the scene.
Ossiana: Tell me how you got into the fetish world. Were you a fetish personality first, a sex educator first, or an author first?
Casey Carter: I was an author first. Four years ago, I started writing erotic short stories and it was almost impossible to find outlets to promote my stories. It was really frustrating so I decided to go live on Twitter early 2017 and read excerpts from my stories hoping to drive traffic to my site and my Amazon author page. I also talked about sex and lifestyle and found out people really wanted to talk and ask questions.
After a few weeks, I started offering my services to my fellow authors. I initially approached writers I was friendly with and then I approached authors I found on Twitter that I liked. Between the stories and the topics, I found myself exploring my own fetishes and ultimately sharing them with my followers hoping to show them there is nothing wrong with them for liking what they like.
What sparked your interest in sexuality?
I’ve always enjoyed sex and exploring what I liked but it wasn’t until I started writing that I really embraced my sexuality, sensuality, and erotic nature.
How long have you been in the scene?
I officially released my first story late 2014/early 2015 but it wasn’t until somewhere in 2016 that I started making my presence known and in 2017 I started traveling to conferences and conventions and what was cool about that, I had spent so much time creating my presence on social media that people were familiar with me.
What are your favorite fetish scenes to partake in?
I love voyeurism, exhibitionism, corsetry, cigar smoking or cigar service, bondage, sadism, and domination, just to name a few. These are the ones always swirling around in my head. Hard to walk into a room without thinking about how I could make one of these things happen and with whom.
How about your favorite fetish scenes to write about?
I love to write about voyeurism and exhibitionism. I also love domination and submission. In my story, The Encounter, however, I filled it with all kinds of scenes that interest me. Bukkake, double penetration, little people, shemales, those are just a few.
Let's talk about your sex education writing. What's something that you really wish more people would understand about kink?
First, I want to help the vanilla community get comfortable with their kink curiosity without feeling like that have to commit to being a full-time kinkster. I did a series on Pervertibles that was really popular. (Pervertibles is a favorite of mine.)
So many in the vanilla community want to try something kinky but are ashamed to go to the store, don’t know what they should get, or don’t want to talk to a salesperson because they’re afraid of being judged. I love teaching them about the multitude of BDSM tools in their house right now.
What's a sex tip you feel everyone should know, but doesn't seem to be aware of?
I think everyone is aware of lube but I hear women so often say they don’t need lube because they get super wet. Lube is a sexually active female’s friend.
Our vaginal walls and lips are so tender and friction can be a bitch. Lube can make the experience not only more pleasurable but prevent you from getting micro-tears which can end the night or make it really painful to go all night.
Now, you advocate that everyone has a sexual color as part of your philosophy. How does a person's sexual persona affect their performance?
The Sexual Rainbow(™) is a way to not only describe yourself in most of your sexual experiences, but it also gives you something to strive for. If you are a color in the middle of the rainbow (blue, brown, green), you can decide you want to venture outside your comfort zone and go red. Its more about identity than it is about dictating performance.
If I describe myself as black, I could be into rope bandage and breath-play while someone else could be into scat and cock and ball training. Within each color, there is a range of exploration to be had.
So, what's your sexual color?
I am primarily red, often black and when I want to do something different, orange.
Tell me a bit about your life outside the world of BDSM and sexuality. What are your favorite hobbies to do when you're not helping people unleash their inner tiger?
I love binge watching shows, sitting by the pool, traveling and hanging out with my friends.
Favorite movie is The Wizard of Oz. Favorite book is The Giving Tree. Favorite food is cheesecake. (Even though I’m vegan, I find the texture of cheesecake sensual. I often eat it without a fork just so I can lick my fingers or smear it on a consenting individual. I find food extremely sensual.)
Having met you and exchanged makeup tips with you, I *know* you can offer some good advice for folks that want to look their best. Give me a great tip or two!
We did bond over highlighter and lipgloss. I loved that. My number one secret is figure out what you think makes you look good, in other words, when you look in the mirror and want to jump your own bones, that’s a keeper.
The outfits you see me in are because I love the way I look, they flatter my assets. When you feel confident, it shows to the world and there is nothing sexier than confidence.
Another tip would be to experiment. I played in my mom’s makeup and shoes when I was a little girl and it is a huge part of who I am today. I love makeup but I also treat my skin like fine china and take care of if when I’m not in makeup. You may see me made up in most of my pictures, but if you look closely, you’ll also see me without makeup. I’m not afraid to be seen.
How do you keep your figure looking great?
Ha. That’s a good one. I am actually working to get back to where I was early 2017. I was stress eating most of that year and gained 15 pounds. I look like I do mainly because I workout, but I am working on getting back to where I was.
Now, having said that, I was still thick 15 pounds lighter. LOL. I truly believe in diet and exercise. I want to age strong. People guess about my age and are always surprised when I tell them.
Tell me something you wish your fans knew.
I tell my [email protected] viewers every week I do what I do because I enjoy them. I enjoy sharing my world with them and I love their feedback so if you’ve never watched [email protected], it's on Wednesdays at 10 PM EST. If you talk to me, I talk back to you. Of course respect is a must but we have fun on the show and you will most definitely learn something.
If you love her attitudes towards sexual exploration, you're going to find her erotica to be smoking hot.
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