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Unconditional love

Broken heart

By Mogomotsi MoremiPublished about a year ago 20 min read

People sometimes confuse pure love with unconditional affection. When they meet the partners with whom they truly want to spend the rest of their lives, they constantly claim that their love for them is unconditional, but after a few hiccups in the relationship, they split up and despise each other.

The Fundamentals

Unconditional love has no bounds, constraints, or requirements. When you unconditionally love someone, you are just there to support, love, defend, and care for them without expecting anything in return.

The love you have for your family members is genuinely unconditional because no matter what happens, you will always remain as a family that loves and supports each other, even if you are all separated and have your own family.

The parents love for their kids is an excellent illustration of unconditional love. Whatever challenges arise - their exam result, an argument, a strong belief, or life-changing decisions - their love remains unconditional and unchangeable.

Love for a friend may also be termed unconditional adore if you love them without expecting anything in return.

Giving someone you do not have a biological connection with your unconditional love may be challenging since all it takes is one slip-up to destroy your trust, and it is difficult to love someone you do not have that kind of confidence in.

Characteristics of Unconditional Love

Most people aspire to love and be loved without constraints, boundaries, hesitations, or limits. You desire a love that isn't simply offered by your family, but one that may become a member of your own family. It is difficult to provide unconditional love if you do not love yourself. You should always begin with loving yourself if you want to provide unconditional love. If you are burdened by so much pain or have so many troubles in life, it will be tough to love unreservedly.

The only person who can assist you in overcoming all of your obstacles in life is yourself. If you have the desire to do so, you can go over the constraints in your life. Only if you can perceive it with your will can you realize that love is infinite and simply present. However, if you are stuck in your past, you will never be able to appreciate the love for what it is, and it will be difficult for you to show someone you care.

If you focus on it and take advantage of its incredible potential to liberate yourself from your restrictions, this will always be accessible to you. To allow the energy to completely infiltrate your daily experience, this too demands intention and effort.

You should start loving yourself if you want to know what true love is. You can only love yourself and then spread that love to everyone and everything you come in contact with.

First, you should think about how you feel about yourself—mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally.

You must get outside of your comfort zone in order to appreciate the beauty of the planet while cleaning your mind. This will keep you motivated and give you the courage to continue on your trip. You'll be able to manifest anything if you have a focused, optimistic mentality. All you have to do is have faith in your abilities.

How to Cut the Ties in Your Love Life

If you are overly dependent on your romantic relationships, you will eventually suffer. Being overly dependent on someone or something is also harmful to you since you will struggle to move on and confront reality once it is gone. Being linked to someone also implies that you are completely devoted to them and cannot imagine your life without them. You will feel the weight of your sorrow once they are gone or no longer under your control, and it will be difficult for you to go on.

This explains why so many individuals are letting their love lives or excessive depression take over their lives. If you want to experience unconditional love, you must learn how to let go of your attachments in relationships. You will be relieved of pain and burdens by removing all attachments.

If you can learn to love without conditions, you'll be able to break free from restrictions and express yourself fully.

It takes a lot of guts to enter a relationship since you are aware that as the connection develops, there will be many challenges you must overcome. Because of the lessons, you will gain from these hardships, you and your relationship will be strengthened. However, you shouldn't allow yourself to become connected to these errors because doing so will only drag you down and undermine your self-worth.

Your love life attachments can be broken first and foremost by you. You will be able to adapt to your position with ease if you fully control your emotions and are aware of your boundaries. Additionally, you must keep an open mind so that you may consider all the advantages and regain your composure.

You may overlook other things that make you happy when you are so committed to your partner. Your entire world revolves. When that one individual goes, you feel as though your entire world has crumbled. You should try to break free from your romantic bonds because this is a bad emotion that you should aim to avoid. Always think about going out on your own and doing what you enjoy or what makes you happy while you're by yourself.

Learning to Love Without Conditions

It means releasing yourself from a lot of pain and accepting yourself more than anything else in the world when you learn how to love unconditionally. Only when you can honestly tell yourself that you deserve to be loved and cared for can you begin to learn to love yourself. Most of the time, your family members or other people you care about receive unconditional love. This is because a family always sticks together, regardless of what occurs, and since you are related to one another not just by blood but also by name, no one can ever take that away from you.

However, this is referred to as conditional love when you learn to love someone after becoming physically attached to them. If you choose to express love to others in a different way, it will be different. It is therefore far more difficult to determine whether what you are feeling is love. You must start embracing yourself and let go of all your self-doubts if you wish to love without conditions. Learn to forget everything you've done to be able to love people more effectively without expecting anything in return because you already have everything you need.

You will learn how to love unconditionally by understanding other people's differences and actual attitudes and by loving them.

Love that has limitations and requirements is called conditional love. They can only make you happy and satisfy all of your needs, therefore you only love them for those reasons. Your ability to love unconditionally starts when you establish a family, which can happen when your love grows stronger. You may offer and receive unconditional love after you have your own family.

There are many ways to define love, but no matter how you define it, it will be difficult to give unconditional love. True conditional love only exists when you love someone because you wanted something in return.

Simple Ways to Make Your Love Life Count

You should discover the fundamental stages to make your love life count if you are in a relationship and want to improve it. You'll be able to live a prosperous existence if you are aware of the crucial steps to making your romantic relationships count. You will experience difficulties as you move through life, and if you can't deal with them effectively, your relationship will deteriorate and ultimately end.

Sometimes it takes time to fall in love again, especially if your previous relationship was serious and you ended it.

Even seeing that your ex-partner is content with someone else hurts. But people need to be aware of this fact. Life should always move on despite any suffering you may experience. You have to have faith that everything happens for a purpose because love is a great thing. Therefore, if your relationship didn't work out, you can be confident that a better person is about to enter your life.

Here are some of the actions you need to do to have a successful love life to assist you in better comprehending everything.

The Practice of Self-Love Nearly 70% of relationships end in divorce. The fundamental cause of this is that people are so dependent on their partners that they frequently overlook their own needs. They neglect their happiness because they are so focused on making their relationships happy. Your love life will undoubtedly fail if you love your lover more than you love yourself. You must also take the actions that will make you happy if you truly want to be happy. Don't limit your attention to others around you.

In a relationship, acceptance is crucial since it strengthens the bond between you two. One mistake is not sufficient to cause separation since you still have time to make up if you can learn to accept someone else's apology or your r. Additionally, keep in mind that neither you nor your partner is perfect. In being too happy with the person you love, you need to learn to accept their flaws and shortcomings.

Let go and forget When you claim you forgive someone, you should also move past the incident. You must do this to prevent returning to the same argument from the past each time you have a misunderstanding. You may move on without feeling guilty if you can learn to forgive and forget. You will also be able to accept the situation. Although forgetting the past is extremely difficult, you must learn to do so to avoid carrying the weight in your heart for a very long time. Make sure your forgiveness is genuine and that you accept it to move on with ease and facilitate the healing process for both of you.

The ABCs of Love

You must take a lot of factors into account if you want to enjoy a long and fulfilling love relationship. You should use the A-Z of love as your guide so that you will know what to do to make your relationship stronger. Since nobody is perfect and faults inevitably happen in relationships, you don't need to be flawless to be in one.

You require a straightforward rule of thumb to assist you to deal with the numerous changes and difficulties in your relationship. It is similar to a step-by-step manual that you must adhere to have a positive path in your love life.


You can get the many A-Z definitions of love life by doing some study. For instance, the letter A stands for attention, which suggests that your relationship needs to receive the correct amount of attention.

It's not a good idea to take your relationship for granted because you also need to take your partner's sentiments into account. When you commit to someone, you also need to devote adequate time and attention to them.

X stands for EX, which is short for "your past." There is no use in going back after someone is regarded as your ex. You must continue dating your new sweetheart.

You can't continue to harbour feelings for your ex because doing so will simply make your suffering worse and last longer.

You must grasp the various meanings of the A-Z of your love life, but one thing is certain. Whatever they imply, you should always put them first if you want a fulfilling romantic relationship.

Exploiting the Universe's Endless Power

Everyone wants to experience the wonderful feeling of receiving unwavering affection. Your parents love you unconditionally, of course, because they already do. If you also deserve to be loved, you can experience unconditional love from someone you love. Everyone wants to know unwavering love, particularly from their parents, as this is what defines or creates a person.

Because they did not get unconditional love from their parents, some people are hesitant to give it to others. Because of your unpleasant history, you might have been one of the children who never knew unconditional love, but that doesn't mean you should treat your children badly as well.

Since you already know how it feels, there is no purpose in denying your children the unconditional love that was already denied to you.

Here are ten reasons why you should love without conditions

1. Recognize your flaws and extend yourself forgiveness. Being genuine to oneself entails having unconditional love. You can only love others unconditionally if you are willing to accept your flaws. There is no such thing as a flawless person, and what you are working toward is not only loving people but also receiving their love. Every child needs their parent's undivided attention, presence, care, affection, and appreciation—not perfection. Don't be reluctant to make errors. You can discover a method to fix your faults if you know how to forgive yourself. Changing the way you talk about yourself is a good place to start. Always keep in mind that your goal is to love yourself and other people, not to be flawless. This will help you when you have negative ideas about yourself.

2. Unconditional love requires exercise much like a muscle. Nearly everyone carries a heavy load in their lives, including lies, errors, pretences, and other challenges. If you continue to carry this burden throughout your life, you will eventually pass out and stop trying. You need to start strengthening your muscles by loving everyone around you and yourself without conditions. You can try to put all of your concerns to rest and strengthen your body to help you battle life's toughest challenges. A piece of extra heavy baggage will be added to your child's experience if you allow them to witness your pain.

3. Accept who you are. You already know that if you stay in touch with your inner source of life, it will overflow to your children, making you a better parent who is more empathetic, patient, loving, and joyous. You need to always be full so that you won't ever run out or become empty if you want to love your children without conditions. You will never get the chance to love yourself unconditionally if you are stressed out or have a lot of loads on your heart. Because this might also be passed on to your family, you need to love and accept yourself.

4. Apologies to your parents. You should begin to forgive your parents since they are also people. Everyone is flawed, and each person has flaws of their own. Your parents may occasionally forget about you, which will make you feel excluded and abandoned. Simply put, they cannot give you the affection and attention you desire since they are not perfect themselves and have other responsibilities.

5. Repair your life to repair your spirit. Love gurus claim that your soul is your only escape route. If your heart is hurting, then your soul must also be in anguish. Some people think that getting harmed physically is preferable because you can treat the scar and see it clearly, however when you are hurt inside, it is difficult to determine how deep the wound is and it takes a long time to heal. You need to begin healing your soul if you want to experience unwavering love. Face your mistakes head-on and take the appropriate action to atone for them. You will be wasting your time trying to cure your spirit if you hold your responsibilities inside forever. You can now continue living a happy and free life after your soul has been healed. You will only experience too much agony as a result of your fury.

6. Accept your family members without conditions. If it is not reciprocated, showing love unconditionally is insufficient. For you to be able to love your child without condition, you must first learn to accept the truth. This implies that you can show your youngster the love they require without having to have them do anything or prove anything to you. You should accept your child regardless of how they turn out because God chose you to be their parent, not because you wanted to be. You will experience your parents' unwavering love from the moment of your birth. You should never take this for granted as a parent, and you should love your family and children in the same way.

7. Come on in good spirits. You should join this club if you have erred in parenting. If it is applied to your child's future, it is not regarded as a mistake. You don't have to solve every problem or have a nice response for every choice you make. You only need to love your child and put your anxieties aside. All your child needs are your acceptance and undivided attention; they don't need anything else in the world.

8. Choose the noble path. Choosing the high road entails remaining composed, patient, and attentive to your child's needs. When you describe taking the low path, you are anxious, disgruntled, and worn out. You frequently lack tolerance and are frequently afraid, irritated, and enraged. To ensure that your child will always respect and look up to you, always take the high road. Avoid throwing tantrums because your child will observe them in you and may carry them with them when they become parents. You'll feel so much love all around you and have peace of mind if you choose the high road.

9. Learn to parent with love rather than with rage. If you know how to set your goals, it is quite simple to love without conditions. To effectively fulfil your role as a parent, which is a lifetime task, you must love your child without condition. How can you love your child unconditionally if you can't even love yourself?

You should give your family your unconditional love in addition to yourself. Always convey to them that you value them just as much as you value yourself. You won't get the right solutions from anger since it will simply make your problem worse. If you are constantly upset and yell at your child when they mess up, they will never learn.

10. You get better with practice. Practice daily if you want to master the art of unconditional love. If you want your child to change, you should constantly make an effort to talk to them when things go wrong. No parent or child is flawless, and neither are they. But if you want to, you may certainly show your family your unwavering devotion. You might begin each day's exercise by just being kind and affectionate to your youngster. Never give up trying to show your family your unwavering love because as a parent, you will constantly need to strive again and again.

Being a family is different from being in a relationship because you show each other different types of affection. It's crucial to keep in mind these 10 factors to understand why people require unwavering love. Everyone wants to know that they are loved without condition, and that feeling must begin in the family. As a result, you must never stop loving your children so that they will know this as adults.

The Best Way to Show Unconditional Love

You should start loving yourself if you want to show your family that you love them without conditions. There is no such thing as having to demonstrate your ability to love unconditionally; you simply need to do it.

How can you love everyone without condition if you can't even show them that you love yourself? If you know how to handle situations appropriately, when you are patient and caring, and when you know how to forgive and forget, you can easily demonstrate your unconditional love to everyone.

A person who also loves themselves is capable of receiving unconditional love. You must love yourself to get unconditional love. This kind of love can be felt intuitively, hence there is no concrete evidence needed to demonstrate it. People can tell from the beginning if they are receiving unconditional love or not.

If you have unconditional love, you would do everything for the people you care about. Because you adore them more than anything in the world, you are not requesting anything in return.

You can wait patiently no matter how difficult things may be because your love is there. A mother's love has no bounds, restrictions, or restrictions. Whatever kind of person your children end up becoming, you always embrace and adore them.

When it comes to true, unwavering love, you're prepared to patiently wait for the ideal moment when your child will feel the same way about you. Similar to how you can tell whether a relationship between two people is truly unconditional if both of you feel the same way about each other.

You can only demonstrate your unconditional love; there is no way to express it in precise words. If you feel that you have this unwavering love for someone, it signifies that you are willing to endure pain and suffering to demonstrate your devotion to them.

How to Make Your Love Life Count for the Other

If both of you are not sincere in your feelings, it is difficult to maintain a healthy romantic relationship. Couples must communicate openly with one another.

They both need to accept one another for how they are different from one another. It is common for couples in relationships to fight about someone or something. This is merely evidence that humans are fallible and that they have diverse points of view. But what matters is that they still have each other at the end of the day.

You should trust your lover more than anyone else if you have an unconditional love for them. Avoid thinking about things that will end your relationship, and if you love your partner, you won't ever do anything insane that will undermine their confidence in you. Once that trust is lost, it will be challenging to rebuild it because no matter what you do, deep internal concerns will remain.

You should begin with loving yourself if you want to experience unconditional love in your romantic relationships. If you don't even love or trust yourself, how can you possibly love someone else? For your romantic lives to be successful, you both need to be able to love without conditions. Being in a relationship entails taking on a lot of responsibility since you must consider both your spouse and yourself. It's crucial to learn the fundamentals of creating a successful love life if you want to have a successful relationship.

Because you are human and fallible, you will inevitably face challenges. This is to be expected. Simply maintain your composure when addressing your errors and make sure you can acknowledge your wrongdoing. When you've been in a meaningful relationship and terminated it, falling in love again might be painful.

Getting Rid of Attachments in a Complete Love

Being excessively devoted to your partner will only harm your relationship. You will struggle to cope with other people if you and your partner are that emotionally bonded to one another. Being extremely dependent on something or someone is what attachment is like. This is a bad notion because you will find it difficult to move on if you get divorced since you are so dependent on that individual. Even if you live together, you still need your own life.

Giving each other the appropriate amount of privacy is appropriate so that you may both enjoy some alone time. For the two of you to enjoy the best time in your relationship, you need to kill or get rid of that attachment. If you don't place any restrictions, limitations, or stipulations on your relationship, you'll both enjoy one other more. We refer to this as unconditional love. When you love someone unconditionally, you don't need to demand more from them, you don't need to ask them for anything in return, and you are less dependent on them.

Always keep in mind that maintaining your relationship's privacy demonstrates your trust for one another. You don't hesitate to give space since you understand how important it is for your relationship to function and develop.


About the Creator

Mogomotsi Moremi

Author and Web developer

Telling stories, one word at a time. Bringing worlds to life through my books and articles. #WriterLife #NeverGiveUp

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