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The Hidden Heroes

by Donna Harris 11 months ago in children · updated 11 months ago
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The Ones Who Supported Us

The Hidden Heroes
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I am a nurse, and like many nurses and healthcare workers, the coronavirus pandemic was a challenging time. At the hospital where I work, they only did emergent/urgent surgical and GI cases, so they only needed a few nurses to assist with these type of procedures. As a result, many of us floated to other departments in the hospital, such as the ED, ICU, telemetry, and medical/surgical units. During the pandemic, I worked in the ICU for three months.

I always thought being a nurse was vital because we are there during some of the most challenging times in a person's life. We comfort those who are dying as well as their families. We cry with them. We educate people about their diseases or procedures so they can make informed medical decisions. We help those who are experiencing pain, whether it be physical or emotional. Unfortunately, the coronavirus pandemic makes it more difficult for healthcare workers, patients and, their families.

During the beginning of the pandemic, people were not allowed to visit loved ones even if they were dying. People within the community donated I-Pads to the hospital so patients could Facetime their loved ones. Even though Facetime helped somewhat, I had patients actively dying, not having their families by their side holding their hands. It was tough on us because we were used to having family around during such an emotional time. The family and patients wished to be together but couldn't.

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We worked long hours and shifts that we were not used to working. For example, The hospital required me to work from 6:00 pm to 6:30 am when I used to work from 7:00 am till 3:30 pm. We were also required to work overtime if needed as some healthcare workers became ill as they were exposed themselves. We were called Heroes. Everyone who worked in healthcare deserved that title, but my story will focus on the unseen heroes.

The unseen heroes are those who supported us during these trying times. These heroes are the ones we came home to after caring for those who were ill. The ones who held us when we cried. The ones who had dinner ready and rented a movie for us when we came home. They cleaned the house and had our hospital uniforms cleaned and hung up neatly. They took care of household chores and the children. They were there for the children when they had to stay home from school and do their classes online. My hero is my husband, Joey. Heroes like Joey made a difference to healthcare workers to survive the emotional and physical challenges of the pandemic.

I am now going to shift my focus to what Joey did personally to make a difference to the world, especially to a little boy named Zane, who is my seven-year-old grandson. When he was just four years old, social services wanted to put him up for adoption. Unfortunately, my daughter was an alcoholic and wasn't caring for him properly. Zane wasn't Joey's biological grandson as I had my daughter, Sara, from a previous marriage.

Joey and I worked full time, and it was challenging to meet the demands of the family court's requirements. The social worker wanted Zane to have a primary full-time caregiver. Zane also required many doctor's visits because he was legally blind and would get respiratory infections often. In addition, Zane wasn't premature but weighed just 3 pounds and 11 ounces at birth. After lengthy discussions between Joey and me, we together decided that Joey would cut his hours at his employer so he could take care of Zane's needs.

Joey attended many court dates over six months so the judge could decide what would be in the child's best interest. The family court chose to grant Joey and me kinship and have Joey be the primary caregiver. Kinship means that we are like foster parents, but unlike foster parents, but is called something different since we were related to the child. We also are not paid caregivers as it would be in a foster care situation. Joey and I were both so happy because it meant that Zane could stay in our family. We would have been so upset if we were unable to see this adorable little boy again.

Joey made a considerable difference in Zane's life. In addition to his medical issues, he had emotional problems as well. Zane used to be afraid to be alone. If he woke up from his nap and we were in a different room, he would be so upset that he would scream and then vomit. Sometimes he would hold his breath until he passed out. Joey would comfort Zane by keeping him in his arms and say comforting words like, "It's OK" and "Hey little boy, I am here for you." After a while, Zane's tantrums ended. He is now a healthy and happy boy. Joey and Zane are so close that they even have a special handshake. Joey worked hard to ensure that Zane was happy, healthy and, had manners. He taught him how to respect others and to say "please" and "thank you."

My daughter Sara quit drinking two years ago and is now a big part of Zane's life. He stays with her on her days off from work. It is because of Joey that a mother and her son are together.

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During the pandemic, Joey worked part-time from home to take care of Zane and our daughter, McKenna. The schools were closed down, and the teachers taught classes online. There were three other children that Joey cared for so their parents could work as many daycare centers closed down. One of them was a nurse, and the two others worked at the local grocery store near our house.

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Now you can see how the unseen heroes make a difference to the world. They are the ones who took care of the frontline workers, the people who worked in the grocery stores, restaurants, and healthcare, so we could do our jobs better. They are the ones who took care of the children's needs and the home as the frontline workers took care of others. So I wish to thank all the unseen heroes because you made a difference to us and the world.

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About the author

Donna Harris

I have always considered myself a writer and poet. Now I opened my 5th Chakra to share my imagination to the universe. I hope you enjoy.

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