For the Love of God, Stop Your Child Screaming in My Ear

by Leona Freebush 2 years ago in advice

Cafés, Restaurants, Shops, Bars, Trains, Buses. It doesn't matter which, just stop.

For the Love of God, Stop Your Child Screaming in My Ear

I am not a parent, nor will I ever be. Don't worry, I won't change my mind, it's not just a phase, etc. (See my previous article.)

I don't know if it's because you are a bad parent, or if you just don't know how to deal with your child. Maybe it's because your child screams 19 hours a day and you have just become numb and deaf to it. Or maybe you just don't care, but for God's sake either shut your child the hell up, or at least have the common courtesy to take them outside until they shut up themselves.

If I am sitting eating a burger, drinking a coffee, watching a movie, or pretty much anything I like to do with my life, I do not want your screaming crotch fruit right next to me drilling through my brain whilst you laugh with your friend and completely ignore it.

Can't you hear it? Can't you see everyone looking at you? Are you deaf or just stupid?

I am childfree by choice. I have never wanted, nor will I ever want children. Their incessant screaming goes through me, and to be honest, it goes through most other people as well.

Now, I am not saying don't bring your children out, before the "Mombies" jump out in full force. I am not saying that children should be banned from everywhere. I am just saying have some common courtesy. If your child is screaming, surely there is some kind of issue? Something wrong with them? If so, fix it.

If not, maybe they are just throwing a tantrum, being a brat, or just generally being naughty. Again, if so, take them outside (for our sake) and discipline them.

Ironically, a lot of the advice that parenting websites and the like offer is actually to ignore them until they stop having a tantrum or throwing a fit. Which yes, that is fine, if you are at home. But surely disturbing the entirety of a room full of people who are not there with children is just not fair? Surely, you must have some kind of self respect enough to not want your child making a scene in front of everyone? Although I know plenty of parents with the self-entitlement that makes them think that their child can do whatever they want whenever they want and no one else is allowed to have an opinion or response to it.

Which is why more and more businesses every day choose to become childfree. From bars and pubs, pizza diners and restaurants, shops and more. Some people, business owners included, don't want to hear children screaming or have to keep them away from things/out of things and generally keep an eye on them when their parents don't.

So, in conclusion, I would like to say this. I understand that some children have autism, or ADHD, or sensory issues etc. However, adults do too, and we all have to share this world. If your child is overstimulated, then remove them from the situation. If your child is screaming, you might be causing serious distress to the adult on the table next to you that suffers from severe anxiety, or autism, or any other number of things.

So remember, the whole world does not revolve around your child. I know you like to think that they do, but they don't. So please, think of other people. If your child is screaming and you are ignoring it, that makes you a selfish person. Just please, think about everyone else with ears.

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