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9 Steps to More Effective Parenting

by Health Journey 6 months ago in parents
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Here are nine steps to more effective parenting

9 Steps to More Effective Parenting
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If you're like most parents, there are moments when you wish your child(ren) would simply listen to and follow your instructions. When this happens, the natural reflex is to get frustrated and at times even angry. The question is: what can be done?

In a word: a lot! Although it may not seem obvious, you actually have numerous options. However, to make the best choices, it's necessary to take a step back and adopt a more positive perspective. This can be done by asking yourself this question: "What will motivate my child(ren) to do what I ask?"

To answer that query requires understanding your kids' unique personalities and, most importantly, their distinct interests. Therefore, one of the most effective ways to motivate them is to tap into this curiosity. In other words, discover what they love and use that as a tool for motivating them to follow your instructions.

Here are nine steps to more effective parenting:

1. Show genuine interest -

Showing a sense of curiosity in your child's activities and interests is one of the most effective ways to motivate them to do what you ask. When they know that you're genuinely interested, they'll be more likely to freely offer information about themselves. This will allow you insight into their unique personalities and even expose some of their interests.

2. Establish realistic expectations -

It's crucial for parents to have reasonable expectations when it comes to motivating kids to do what you ask. For example, children are often more effective in doing simple tasks that don't require cognitive effort or concentration, such as getting dressed or packing their backpacks for school in the morning. However, when tasks become more complex and require critical thinking skills, such as completing homework or studying for a test, you'll need to adjust accordingly.

3. Set boundaries -

Setting boundaries is an important part of helping kids feel safe and secure in their environment. It's also beneficial in establishing guidelines that children can use for determining right from wrong. Boundaries not only provide guidelines for acceptable and expected behavior in a child's life, but they also help determine what will and won't happen if their instructions aren't followed.

4. Provide choices -

One of the best ways to motivate children to do what you ask is by giving them an option or choice in how tasks are completed. Although it may seem counterintuitive, offering kids a choice in how they follow your instructions will allow them to feel like their opinion counts and that they're not being told what to do. Furthermore, it gives them the ability to make choices in an area where you otherwise wouldn't let them have control; therefore giving them a sense of power in their life.

5. Avoid manipulation -

Although it's beneficial to motivate children by appealing to their interests, one of the worst ways to go about doing this is through manipulation. Some parents try to use guilt or shame as a means for motivating kids. For instance, if you're trying to get your child(ren) dressed for school in the morning and they're running late, you might tell them to hurry up because everyone else in the family is already dressed and ready. This sends a message that your child(ren) is somehow inferior which will only lead to resentment and misbehavior.

6. Use punishment sparingly -

Punishing children can be just as counterproductive as offering false motivation through guilt or shame. When children are punished, they often resent the action and feel as if they're being treated unjustly. Furthermore, punishment teaches more about blame than it does about accountability, which is why some children are never held accountable for their behavior - because their parents have failed to give them consistent consequences.

7. Reward good behavior -

It's important to offer children positive reinforcement for doing something you've asked, rather than waiting until the task is complete and telling them what they did well. That way, they experience immediate gratification and motivation to continue - as opposed to having to wait until the end of an activity when it's too late for good behavior to earn any rewards. Offering rewards also help to motivate children to do something even when you aren't around; which is important for promoting independence.

8. Model good behavior -

One of the best ways to motivate kids to do what you ask is by modeling it yourself. By providing them with positive role models, they will learn how to reach goals and deal with difficult situations in an effective manner. If you want them to trust in themselves and believe that they can accomplish anything, then you need to show through your own actions that it's possible.

9. Spend quality time -

Quality time is one of the most effective ways for children to feel loved and cared about by their parents. Spending time together not only shows kids how much they're valued but also gives them an opportunity to learn from their experiences. It's important for children to have a positive influence in their lives because they will often imitate the behaviors of those they respect or admire.

Having a child is one of the greatest gifts you can ever experience as a parent. However, with that gift comes great responsibility which will require you to learn how to carry out your role in a way that will teach your child(ren) about life, help them grow up happy and successful, and become the best person they can be.


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