Children become wimps when going out and bullies at home. This problem can be solved in this way

Someone asked:

Children can be a powerful mouth at home, often can speak to adults leng leng, but once out of the door "second", everything is modest - even unprincipled humility.

There are also some children at home is not horizontal, but out of the exceptionally good, will not express their needs correctly.

Why do kids play both sides?

How to let the child "not horizontal in the nest", "outside is not counselling"?

Why is that?

Many of the "little bullies" at home are actually children who can "watch people dish".

This problem, I judge, is likely to be caused by the unclear rules of the family environment, in the face of unreasonable requirements of the child, the child cries, the family will compromise without principle, which is easy to cause the child at home "arrogant" phenomenon.

In addition, if there is an adult in the family who is "timid at home", it is easier for the children to form a wrong perception:

That's what social interaction is all about. You don't need to be nice at home, but you need to be nice to others when you go out.

For children who are just "abnormally good outside", it is likely that the child's current social skills are still relatively weak (such as around 2 years old) and cannot have normal social activities with other children of the same age.

You can do that

1. Provide a home environment with real and normal feedback

Backstage often see such as: children hit, bite pain, how to educate and guide the problem, about this point, I am sure to directly with the child to say their true feelings - mom is very painful! Very uncomfortable, and then think about how to guide and teach the child.

Scene reappearance

1, the child wants to eat ice cream, but he knows that as soon as he cries, grandma will give him ice cream. At that time, eating ice cream was not allowed (even crying). Try saying:

"Just think, when you get to the kindergarten, the teacher asks you to start class first, but you don't want to play. Even if you lie down and cry, everyone won't agree. Teachers and peers will think you're influencing them.

What's the best thing to do?

You can explain to your teacher why you want to play, and then discuss it with your teacher to come up with a plan that is acceptable to everyone."

2, the child is too excited to play the grandfather, can let the child apologize to the grandfather after the guidance.

"Because Grandpa loved you so much, he forgave you.

But if you hit other kids like this while playing outside, they may not forgive you as quickly as Grandpa did.

No one wants to play with a kid who always gets himself hurt, and you're going to have fewer people to play with, aren't you?"

2. Set a family example

Parents are the first people children imitate, so it's important to set a good example yourself. Don't be nice outside. When you come home, you are all "emotional brain" and don't communicate well.

Family members should also adhere to the principle, the violation of the principle firmly reject the children, let them feel the sense of unsatisfied loss.

3. Respect differences in character

Finally, I would like to say that there is no absolute standard of social interaction. Everyone is exploring their own comfort level.

Small D also had, he was playing with a toy to other children.

Here's what she said:

"I could see he wanted to play with it more than I did, so I let him play with it first."