The Invisible but Everlasting Love

We all know the song Under Pressure, by Queen…you remember, it starts out with the guitar riff…dah dah dah dadada dahm...dah dah dah dadada dahm, then the piano goes…bah bahm. Makes you feel excited and joyous and bursting with euphoria, doesn’t it?

Imagine you received a bouquet of lush, deep, rich, red roses in full bloom. Bring your nose right up to them and breathe in their fragrance. Now close your eyes for a second. Gets you every time doesn’t it?

Now picture that boy or girl, you know the one I’m talking about.

The one who gave you a jolt of excitement the second you laid eyes on them.

The one where the voice in your brain doesn’t speak in words but emotion.

The person who you knew right away might be someone who could not only change your world but permanently infect you with emotion so powerful it would permeate every aspect of your life until your final breath.

Someone who no matter what happens, or who they may be with, or where they may live, remains the master of your universe.

It doesn’t really matter when you heard that perfect song or smelled those celestial flowers, once your psyche is infected, it becomes everlasting.

Only time reveals whether an object of our desire is permanent or temporary.

Most of us go through sensory stages.

We get addicted to playing tennis or football or ping pong or billiards and play it every day until the next intriguing activity comes along.

The same is true with people in our lives. We have different best friends at different ages and stages, and for varying amounts of time.

We all have someone who penetrates our mind, body, and souls so deeply, we carry them with us, whether we want to or not.

Someone who loves us so intensely and honestly and with such surrender, part of us will never accept it didn’t last.

Someone for whom we will always be at risk of losing our minds over.

Yet someone who we know, in the rational left side of our brain, we can never reunite with, in any meaningful way.

So, what does one do when it dawns on them they will never find someone who brings them to the heights of joy and ecstasy as the person who is now forbidden?

It’s simple. They bring them along. Not literally of course.

Just like we have certain friends who bring us overwhelming happiness, many of us will perpetually be under the spell of that one person who once took our breath away….and never gave it back.

This love virus may not have a cure, but it does have a treatment. For if it were fatal, we would never feel that spark of attraction again, but always do.

And the truth is, what we perceive as our only true love, is usually warped and filtered by an idealized, over-romanticized, rewriting of history.

If still living, there’s a reason we are no longer with the person we perceive as our Romeo or Juliet. It’s usually because, despite an enormous reservoir of passion, Eros, and emotional intensity, the riptide of incompatibility was just too strong to overcome.

It’s also possible when we lose someone we desperately love, something in us permanently breaks, making it difficult to trust again.

It hurts to get hurt.

Sometimes, love just happens. It creeps in. A spark turns into a romance and before you know it, you’re riding high again.

It might be like a bicycle built for three, with the last seat invisibly reserved for the love that got away.

Sing it with me….Dah dah dah dadada dahm, dah dah dah dadada dahm, ba bahm.

Smell that rose deeply.

Drink it in. Take someone’s breath away.

Be brave.

Risk it.

To do otherwise may feel safe, but that’s not how you ended up in this predicament in the first place.

The formula hasn’t changed.

Ask.

Hope.

Dream.

Surrender.

Be vulnerable.

Be willing to get crushed.

Face the fear.

And love wholeheartedly.

All of you.