Hrithik Roshan and Sussanne Khan’s ‘Marriage Story’
the current situation that we all are struggling with, even a small ray of hope is enough to keep us afloat. I know it’s extremely difficult to look past these gloomy days but then hope is our biggest weapon and as long we have love in our hearts nothing is beyond our reach.What our future holds for us is not in our hands right now. And the present is the only thing that we can and we all should concentrate on. Maintaining sanity and peace of mind during these testing times is a task and I am sure we all are trying to achieve it by doing things that bring pleasure to our heart or keeping oneself surrounded by positive things. Amidst all the depressing news that we are coming across these days, the story of Sussanne Khan temporarily moving in with her ex-husband Hrithik Roshan brought a huge smile on my face. I am sure many of you as well must have felt happy for this ex-couple.Last year, most of you must have watched Noah Baumbach’s compassionate and gut-wrenching film ‘Marriage Story’ featuring Scarlett Johansson and Adam Driver. And after reading Hrithik and Sussanne’s decision to temporarily live together amidst the pandemic for the sake of their kids, I somehow ended up drawing parallels between their fairytale love-story and the consequent separation with that of the protagonists’ of ‘Marriage Story’.In Indian society, separation is always associated with ‘end of happiness’ or beginning of loveless life. People dread the tag of divorce and most of the times compromise for the sake of their children. But isn’t it nice to see two people not having any kind of animosity between them despite their decision to end their relationship?Why is it so hard for us to believe that the end of a marriage/relationship always has to be on bad terms? Two mature people, who know they are better off as friends rather than a couple, can bring so much to the table while co-parenting their kids. Imagine the kind of peaceful atmosphere they can raise their kids in. No hatred, no animosity…. a home where only love, respect and understanding is given priority.Hrithik and Sussanne’s love story was straight out of a true-blue romance film. Despite the religious difference, they made sure to never let anything come between them. After two years of dating, the actor tied the knot with the already established interior fashion designer Sussanne. Also, Hrithik had become an overnight sensation post the release of his debut film ‘Kaho Na Pyaar Hai’. Together they made for the most drop-dead gorgeous pair in the film industry.They were blessed with two sons, Hridhaan and Hrehaan and then out of the blue came the reports of their divorce after almost 14 years of marriage. Being a Bollywood fanatic, their separation came as a huge shock for me. I am sure you all must have felt the same for their story was an epitome of a perfect relationship for usBut over the years, look how gracefully and maturely these two have handled their relationship when it comes to co-parenting their sons. On several occasions, both of them have clearly said that raising their sons together is their number one priority. And much to their fans’ dismay, they have even set the record straight that there’s no chance of reconciliation between them and they will continue to be there for each other and respect each other no matter what.Post their divorce, together they were snapped on several dinners and lunch dates with their common friends. Going for vacations together, attending each other family’s functions and parties. Doing everything in their capacity to make their children know that they will be there for them no matter what. Just like any other divorced couple, they did experience their share of up and downs and faced come controversies as well. But as usual, they made sure there was no bad blood between them.While sharing the news of Sussanne moving-in with him during the lockdown, Hrithik had shared a wonderful and poignant message and by just reading that you know where their mutual respect and admiration for each other comes from. The ‘Super 30’ actor’s heartfelt message read, “It is unimaginable for me, as a parent, to think of having to be separated from my children at a time when the country is practising lockdown.It is heartwarming to see the world come together as one in this time of deep uncertainty and possibility of months of social distancing and potential lockdowns for several weeks perhaps. While the world talks about humanity coming together, I think it represents more than just an idea especially for parents sharing custody of their kids. How to keep their kids close to them without infringing on the right of the other who also has an equal right to be with his/her children. This is a picture of dear Sussanne (my ex-wife), who has graciously volunteered to temporarily move out of her home so that our children are not disconnected indefinitely from either one of us. Thank You Sussanne for being so supportive and understanding in our journey of co-parenting. Our children will tell the story we create for them. I hope and pray that in order to safeguard the health of ourselves and our loved ones, we all find our way to express love, empathy, courage, strength with an open heart ❤️(sic).”
Our Film 'My Octopus Teacher' Just Won A BAFTA
We were all dressed up with nowhere to go except on a live link to the BAFTA awards. As we stood on the deck of a friend's house, waiting for the programme to begin, two killer whales surfaced barely a hundred meters from where we stood and glided past. It was a stunning moment for all of us who are swimmers and divers in this Great African Seaforest.The reason we were waiting to get on the BAFTA live link was in large part thanks to that forest, and all of her wonderful animals within, especially a little octopus who befriended my husband for a year and became the subject of the movie that has just won Best Documentary: My Octopus Teacher. Four years ago, when we started working on this film in a small room in my house, none of us thought that we would be here: on the world stage and, best of all, with massive audience appreciation for the filmIt started perhaps 50 years ago when Craig Foster, my husband, was three years old. The ocean has always been his happy place and when, as an adult and burnt-out filmmaker, he felt that he had lost any passion for his craft, it was the ocean that he turned to. Years prior on a film called The Great Dance, A Hunter's Story, he spent years with the San people in the Kalahari. He was deeply struck by how entwined they were with their landscape and seemed so content and settled even though their lives were a massive challenge after years of genocide, loss of ancestral land and decimation by the wild. From them, he decided to learn to become entwined in the ocean landscape.He decided to be in that wet wilderness sans wet suit or scuba tanks to totally immerse himself. After a few months of adjusting to the freezing temperature, he found the cold water invigorating and healing.
People say love is the essence of life and without it, everything is just mundane. Marriages without love simply miss the sweetness of life; living with someone you’ve known for long and having that similar touch is bliss. Well, this is what I used to believe in until I laid eyes on the man I would spend my life with. And all this happened when my parents invited suitors and their families for my marriage.In our society, it’s no surprise that arranged marriages are considered to be more dominant than love marriages. And so, my family thought it best to start looking for suitors since I had approached the marriageable age. Even though I had dreams of finding my prince charming, I didn’t oppose the concert of arranged marriages. After all, if I haven’t been able to click with someone, opting for a husband chosen by my elders seems to be a plausible choice. We all did meet the family, and as everyone gushed over how beautiful I looked in my suit, the man lifted his eyes to meet mine, and at that time, I felt an undeniable connection to him. He was handsome, charming and tall.We frequently met over the course of the next few months and as I got to know him, I felt happy. He was witty, had a great sense of humour, even though he cracked really lame jokes! He almost liked the same things I liked, and he was a lover of chocolates. That really set me up! My family agreed that this man and his family were a great match and we both would make a wonderful jodi. I seemed to blush whenever his name came up. It was a hint that I was falling for him! But I had to be sure if he felt the same. And so, we met up soon. Even though I struggled to let out my feelings, I finally did, and I was relieved to know that he felt the same way.Was love possible right after meeting a stranger for an arranged marriage?In my opinion yes, because after that day in the cafe, we started liking each other more. And within the next few months, as our wedding preparations adjourned, we grew more closer. We got married in December 2006 and our marital life has been a beautiful ride. We went on many vacations, worked hard together to build our dream home and we even gave birth to our beautiful twins, Megha and Mahir. My husband has been my support rock throughout the time I faced difficulties in my job and when I was unable to take care of our kids properly. It’s as if his presence completed mine. He also had certain expectations from me, which I think is absolutely necessary for a fulfilling relationship. Through the good times and bad, my husband and I have been a terrific pair, setting an example for our cousins!It hasn’t always been all smiles and flowers. We had our fair share of fights. We yelled, fought and even cursed but the willingness to apologise and have each other’s presence in our lives was far too much. Our twins are a beautiful part of our journey; they are simply adorable. Naughty yet brilliant! My husband and I surely get exhausted with our twins at times, but the smile they put on our faces is far too precious to ever lose.