Certified Life Coach in Toronto, CA with over 10 years of professional coaching experience and over 13 years of corporate experience. I'm also an Afro-Caribbean dual citizen of both the US and Canada.
Dear White People: (Please) Mind Your Business. We’re Just Living While Black!
A few weeks ago a girlfriend of mine asked me to volunteer some of my time to help her out with a women’s retreat. She is a health and wellness coach and was facilitating a paint session in a beautiful park in Toronto on a sunny but breezy Sunday afternoon. We got there and started setting up the materials, laying out the canvases, paint brushes and other supplies the ladies would need. The women on the retreat were a local church group and were comprised of predominantly black women. They had had a wonderful weekend filled with different activities that helped them focus on their spiritual and personal growth and commitment to their faith. On this Sunday, they had gone for a group hike in the park as it had a hiking trail, and were to finish off their day with a group paint session facilitated by my friend.
The Running Faucet vs. The Leaky Faucet (The Slow Drip)
Being Black, at any given time, in any given country, on any given day, is usually in and of itself a trying experience for most (but not all) Black people. Whether it’s the constant microaggressions we face on a daily and continuous basis, the sometimes blatant racist attacks and remarks that are levied at us with complete disregard for our humanity or feelings, or the total lack of regard for our lives when encountering law enforcement and medical professionals, we live our lives knowing that in most cases we will be treated differently. We see it in the ways we are treated in other non-black POC’s grocery stores, taxi cabs and restaurants. We see it in our education systems and the ways Black children and communities in particular are not or poorly invested in. These disparities are not new or unique to the Black experience, no matter what country you live in. But there IS a difference in how they are displayed and the corresponding effects they have on our community as a whole.