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Does Monogamy Exist?
This article was originally posted at www.discoveringpolyamory.com Last weekend, I met my friend's new partner. They've been dating for a couple of months now, and he seems like a lovely guy. And luckily, he has no problem that she's already married and has another boyfriend on top of that.
“Rules” vs “Agreements” in Relationships
Beginning your journey into polyamory can be daunting for many reasons. And one of those is the number of new words and phrases you can find yourself facing. No matter how prepared you think you are, when words such as “compersion” and “metamour” start flying around, it can feel overwhelming.
Everyone Wanted Her, But No One Wanted Me
Beginning your journey into ethical non-monogamy is exciting. So many possibilities lay open to you. Things that were out-of-bounds in monogamy are suddenly back on the table. Hedonism beckons, and no one could begrudge you for getting a little over-excited about the possibilities.
The Eternal Moment
One minute to go. Dawn had begun to show as the barest lightening of the low, overcast clouds behind them. It’s wasn’t the pre-dawn chill that caused Fredrich to shiver. The shells had been falling all day and all night without relenting more than a moment, but he had long ago learned to sleep through the hellish cacophonies of the front line. He was just thankful that he hadn’t been one of the poor wretches ordered to slink out over the top last night to cut gaps in the barbed wire.
And So I Sit, Looking Out Across the Water
When I move, they come. And so I sit, looking out across the water, staying as still as possible for as long as I can. It seems a waste of my time and energy to think back on the path that brought me here. But what else am I do with either of them? Sometimes, I feel that if I spent enough time looking back, focused enough energy on the past, I would perhaps open my eyes to discover myself back there. Returned to the moments when I believed I was happy.
What Went Wrong When We Hooked Up With A Couple
When my partner and I decided we wanted to play with other couples, we didn’t know how it would go. Once we’d made the decision, we began searching a few dating sites. And, eventually, we connected with another couple we both liked the look of. After chatting online and establishing that everyone was interested, we arranged to meet for dinner.
Going to a Sex Party? Prepare to be Disappointed
Sex parties. Such an exciting idea. Like-minded people coming together to enjoy sex in a new and thrilling way. Whether you enjoy watching, being watched, or simply revel in the shared sexual energy, sex parties are something many people fantasise about experiencing.
My Partner Watched, And Discovered She Liked It
It took my partner a while to grow fully comfortable with polyamory. When we met, I was already polyamorous, but she had never tried it before. Dating me was taking a step into the unknown, and I did my best to ensure she was comfortable. And, luckily for both of us, she found it to be a lifestyle that suited her to a tee.
We Need To Embrace Our Adult Crushes
A little while ago, I was talking with some friends about the world of dating. It was a long and rambling discussion, as some of the best conversations with friends tend to be. But eventually, we hit upon the topic of how to best handle rejection.