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Why I Decided to End My “Perfect” Relationship
What makes a “perfect” relationship? It depends on the person, of course. But I’d be willing to bet that, for many people, regular, no-strings, mind-blowing sex with a stunning Latin woman who neither expected nor wanted any form of long-term commitment would be near the top of the list.
Book Review: "Piranesi" by Susanna Clark
(Originally posted at www.thomashbrand.com (contains affiliate links)) The Story Piranesi’s house is no ordinary building: its rooms are infinite, its corridors endless, its walls are lined with thousands upon thousands of statues, each one different from all the others. Within the labyrinth of halls an ocean is imprisoned; waves thunder up staircases, rooms are flooded in an instant. But Piranesi is not afraid; he understands the tides as he understands the pattern of the labyrinth itself. He lives to explore the house.
Ghost Light of the Shadow Cabin
The cabin in the woods had been abandoned for years, but one night, a candle burned in the window. Just a single flame flickering softly with a cold, yellow light. Not enough to light a room, but enough to draw a weary traveller home.
A Hunt for Dragonnest
There weren't always dragons in the Valley. Not if people were doing their jobs, anyway. Theoretically, there should never be dragons in the Valley. Just as there should never be rats, roaches, wolves, or other pests. That was the whole point of the Valley. It existed as an exemplar of how the world could be if only it would bring itself to embrace organised thaumaturgy.
Does Monogamy Exist?
This article was originally posted at www.discoveringpolyamory.com Last weekend, I met my friend's new partner. They've been dating for a couple of months now, and he seems like a lovely guy. And luckily, he has no problem that she's already married and has another boyfriend on top of that.
“Rules” vs “Agreements” in Relationships
Beginning your journey into polyamory can be daunting for many reasons. And one of those is the number of new words and phrases you can find yourself facing. No matter how prepared you think you are, when words such as “compersion” and “metamour” start flying around, it can feel overwhelming.
Everyone Wanted Her, But No One Wanted Me
Beginning your journey into ethical non-monogamy is exciting. So many possibilities lay open to you. Things that were out-of-bounds in monogamy are suddenly back on the table. Hedonism beckons, and no one could begrudge you for getting a little over-excited about the possibilities.
The Eternal Moment
One minute to go. Dawn had begun to show as the barest lightening of the low, overcast clouds behind them. It’s wasn’t the pre-dawn chill that caused Fredrich to shiver. The shells had been falling all day and all night without relenting more than a moment, but he had long ago learned to sleep through the hellish cacophonies of the front line. He was just thankful that he hadn’t been one of the poor wretches ordered to slink out over the top last night to cut gaps in the barbed wire.
And So I Sit, Looking Out Across the Water
When I move, they come. And so I sit, looking out across the water, staying as still as possible for as long as I can. It seems a waste of my time and energy to think back on the path that brought me here. But what else am I do with either of them? Sometimes, I feel that if I spent enough time looking back, focused enough energy on the past, I would perhaps open my eyes to discover myself back there. Returned to the moments when I believed I was happy.
What Went Wrong When We Hooked Up With A Couple
When my partner and I decided we wanted to play with other couples, we didn’t know how it would go. Once we’d made the decision, we began searching a few dating sites. And, eventually, we connected with another couple we both liked the look of. After chatting online and establishing that everyone was interested, we arranged to meet for dinner.
Going to a Sex Party? Prepare to be Disappointed
Sex parties. Such an exciting idea. Like-minded people coming together to enjoy sex in a new and thrilling way. Whether you enjoy watching, being watched, or simply revel in the shared sexual energy, sex parties are something many people fantasise about experiencing.