Teela Hudak
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Teela is a Vancouver-based Sex Educator & Relationship Expert. Learn more at: https://exploresextalk.com/
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What Is Sexual Assault?
Sexual assault can take many forms. The legal definition will change a bit from place to place, but it is generally defined as any action that is sexual in nature and violates the sexual integrity of the victim. It is an unwanted and non-consenting action performed by one person on another. In many cases, sexual assault is defined by its lack of freely given consent. It is used as more of an umbrella term that includes a wide variety of unwanted actions.
By Teela Hudak5 years ago in Viva
What Is Vaginal Sex?
Vaginal sex is what most people think of when they talk about sex. It is often primarily thought of as a penis entering a vulva and into the vagina, but that is only one part of vaginal sex. It is actually the penetration of something into the vagina. The penetration could be from fingers, a penis, or a toy of some kind. All of these things count as vaginal sex.
By Teela Hudak5 years ago in Filthy
When Can Consent Be Withdrawn?
When is it okay for consent to be withdrawn in a given situation? Is there a point of no return where a person must simply follow through? No matter who you speak to, everyone will have a different opinion about this aspect of consent. There are a lot of different opinions based on people's experiences and their upbringing, but the truth is that most people haven't really learned about consent. Most people have not taken the time to learn about and explore the topic. They feel they have a good understanding just because they have a basic understanding. Research actually shows that most people aren't able to correctly identify the finer points of consent. This is why it's important we continue to have the discussions exploring the different aspects of consent. So when can consent be withdrawn?
By Teela Hudak5 years ago in Viva
Is Oral Sex Safe?
Is it really necessary to practice safer oral sex? A lot of people would argue that it really ruins the experience. It's also a fairly common perception that there is no need for safer sex methods when engaging in oral sex. Since there is no risk of anyone getting pregnant when having oral sex, most people think that using protection isn't important. There are more reasons than just potential pregnancies for using protection when engaging in oral sex. Unprotected sex of any kind still leaves you open to potential risks.
By Teela Hudak5 years ago in Filthy
When Is Consent Freely Given?
Choice is a crucial part of consent. That seems fairly straightforward and a total no brainer. When we talk about consent, pretty much everyone would agree that consent should be freely given. It's easy to talk about it when we look at the black and white definition. The trouble is that the world is never black and white. Many people can define the basics of what consent is; however, those same people struggle to articulate how it should be applied when given real-world situations. It's not always clear cut and there's a lot of debate. So how do we know if consent is actually freely given?
By Teela Hudak5 years ago in Filthy
What Is a PAP Test?
A PAP test, also called a PAP smear or Papanicolaou test, is a medical exam that takes a small sample of cells from the cervix. These cells are then examined under a microscope and determined to be abnormal or normal. PAP tests are useful for screening for potential problems, like cancer, and diagnose any infections or inflammations. These medical exams are for anyone who has a vulva and the attached internal reproductive organs.
By Teela Hudak5 years ago in Viva
Is Asking for Consent Awkward?
When consent is a newer concept or conversation for you, it may feel awkward to start doing it. We don't have a lot of good examples modeled to us of suave and sexy consent conversations. There is usually a whole lot of the opposite. Movies and TV often sell the idea of just taking action is sexier and more daring. This is a horrible and potentially dangerous idea. It is ideas like that which have led us to our current state of affairs where at least 1 in 4 women in Canada experience a sexual assault in their life. It is ideas like that which have created the need for social movements like the #MeToo Movement. Consent is incredibly important and it doesn't have to feel awkward.
By Teela Hudak5 years ago in Filthy
#DroptheB Should Be #DroptheJudgment
Have the you heard about the #droptheb controversy? The LGBTQ2SA* community has for years used a variation of this acronym. Each letter represents a different aspect of gender or sexual orientation. The community is meant to be inclusive and a safe space for those who have faced discrimination due to their identity and preferences.
By Teela Hudak5 years ago in Humans
Does a Soulmate Make a Difference?
Do soulmates exist? And if they do, does it make a difference if you are with yours or not? Relationships can be tricky to navigate and many people feel like they fail at them. Finding a lasting and fulfilling relationship can be tough. People also have a lot of different ideas about what a good relationship looks like. Some people feel that it's effortless with the right person while others hold that good relationships take work and effort over time to keep them alive. So which is the truth? If you find your perfect soulmate, does that make relationships effortless?
By Teela Hudak5 years ago in Humans
Should You Take Back a Cheater?
Should you ever take back a cheater? It can be really hard when someone betrays your trust, especially someone who you are particularly close to. Depending on the particulars of the situation, it may not be something the relationship can come back from. In the relationship game, sometimes there are no easy answers or clear decisions. You need to make the choices that are best for you, and while others may pitch in ideas for your consideration, ultimately the choice is yours. There are several important things you should consider if you are debating if you should take this person back or make a clean break.
By Teela Hudak5 years ago in Humans
What Is Fluid Bonding?
Have you ever heard the term "fluid bonding"? Fluid bonding is a fairly simple, but an important concept in a relationship. Put simply, it is the agreement between two people to share bodily fluids. This may not seem like a big deal, but it has some crucial implications for the state of the relationship, trust, and open communication. There can be different and distinct levels of fluid bonding. For example, you may consent to share saliva with someone but that doesn't mean that you would be willing to have unprotected sex with them or share blood with them. In most cases, fluid bonding typically refers to the choice to have unprotected sex with an ongoing partner. For it to be considered fluid bonding, it must be a deliberate choice made by the couple.
By Teela Hudak5 years ago in Filthy
What Is Safer Sex?
Safer sex is about protecting yourself and your partner from any unwanted risks during sexual activities. It most commonly refers to protecting yourself from the transmission of sexually transmitted infections, or STIs. This definition can also be stretched to apply to other areas of sexuality, such as protection from unwanted pregnancies or unwanted harm from kink-involved activities.
By Teela Hudak5 years ago in Filthy