Talara Nolan
Bio
I am a single parent to a 4 year old girl and live with her in Canada. I love working out and have lost over 45 lbs over time. I would love to share what I have learned and all the things that have worked for me over time.
Stories (95/0)
When to keep the peace and when to stand up for yourself
I feel like I am caught in an odd place in both my relationship and with my family. In a place where I want to stand up for myself, but I also want to keep the peace. I feel like I have to really think about every situation that I am in, and consider if it is worth the fight or not. Most of the time, I'm just not sure. I am trying to stand up for myself more, however that causes trouble most of the time. I feel like I always take it, I always try to do what people say is the right thing to do. Of course, that always works out best for everyone else, and never me. When will someone look out for me? When will I come first? Maybe it's just getting older, but I am sick of always doing the right thing and never being put first. I know that my problem is my life is that I don't have a lot of people that will really take care of me, that will stand up for me. All I want is one.
By Talara Nolan2 months ago in Confessions
If I die...
By the title I'm sure you can tell that yesterday was hard. When I think about it, I start to cry. So it's hard to think about things clearly to make a plan for my future. But I guess that is how they do it. They brake you down so that you are so depressed and emotional that you can't think straight.
By Talara Nolan2 months ago in Confessions
Accepting I am with a cheater
I had believed it for some time, however I have to now know that I have to accept it. And those are two different things. So my 'boyfriend' has been telling me, or trying to tell me, that he has gone back to being a bodyguard for bad people. His words. People who are drug dealers, strippers, in brothels. There were a few videos he sent me in the past, but he was always alone in the videos. I had a guess that he wasn't working in those videos. I would say that it didn't look like a brothel or a drug dealers house. However, I am not around those people or places, never have been. So I didn't have any proof or evidence that it was anything more than he was saying it was. However, he recently sent me four videos. He claimed that those videos were proof that he wasn't doing anything wrong, that it was proof that he was being honest and transparent. They were all in an apartment, a nice apartment, seemingly alone with a woman. The first was of him, his back was to a woman who was standing at a counter, so her back was to him. He moved the camera down, and the girl was standing there in a sweater in her underwear, so her ass was totally out. The second was him in the hallway, then he shows her doing her makeup. The third she was bending over to do something for her little dog. He took a video of her ass, she had pants on now, but moved his hand like he thought about smacking it. The fourth was them walking down the stairs of the hallway to go walk her dog.
By Talara Nolan2 months ago in Confessions
How I stopped emotional eating?
After my trauma, a side effect that I didn't plan on was starting to emotionally eat. I had heard of people struggling with this, especially after covid. Looking back, I can see how I had this to some degree. Though it was never a real problem for me. After my trauma, the side effects of me trying to deal with my feelings were unexpected. I found myself having a real problem with emotional eating. Any spare moment that I had, especially when I was dealing with a lot of feelings, I would find myself eating. I felt like I always had to be eating basically. There wasn't a lot I could do to control myself. Before I knew it, I was 5 lbs heavier.
By Talara Nolan2 months ago in Longevity
The loneliness after abuse
When I was in the abusive relationship, the loneliness was overwhelming for me. I dreamed of getting out, of not being there and being able to live a happy and fulfilled life. The thing is that it's not the fairy tale that you think that it is. It's not that easy.
By Talara Nolan2 months ago in Longevity
Doing pregnancy differently
My first time being pregnancy was a lot for me to take in. I really had no idea what I was doing. It was not planned, and so it was a lot to learn and think about. I didn't know what to do or what was normal. Everything for me was a learning experience. When you are trying to prepare yourself for this big change, it's hard to take it all in. There are some things that I would do differently, and some I would do again my second time around.
By Talara Nolan11 months ago in Families
What I learned from doing 75 Hard
You don't know what you are really capable of until you push yourself. When I first heard about the 75 hard challenge, I wasn't sure what I was really going to learn if I did it. What was I going to get out of it? A lot of the things I almost did after all. I already worked out every day, I drank a fair amount of water. But I also knew that you can't judge things until you try them out yourself. So I to give it a try.
By Talara Nolan11 months ago in Motivation
Is monogamy dead?
For a long time, we have lived in a world where we were all monogamous. We were all taught that you had to marry one person, and just be with that person forever. For a long time, that one person had to be of the other sex. A man married a woman, and that was it. Men would be allowed to cheat, but it was always hidden. A little secret that everyone knew, but didn't really talk about, as it was acceptable.
By Talara Nolan12 months ago in Families
Staying focused through chaos
When there is chaos going on around you, it can be hard to focus and get things done. It's hard to focus on one thing when people are telling you that there are 10 other things you need to do. Here are some tips to help you stay focused and get things accomplished, even if you feel like your world is falling apart around you.
By Talara Nolan12 months ago in Lifehack
Birth and rebirth
It is said that if you want to hear a joke, tell God what your plans are. Life is what happens when you are making other plans. We all think that we need to have a major shift, a major change for things to really change. But sometimes it's something small, and sometimes it sneaks up on you.
By Talara Nolanabout a year ago in Confessions
Popular Hobbies
When you have a lot of free time, it can be easy to drop into unproductive behavior. You don't have to be productive all the time. But, when you are doing working towards your goals, make sure that you have something to fill up your time. Get some hobbies that will fill up your time and bring you some joy. It also combats depression, and loneliness. So here are some hobbies that can help you fill your time.
By Talara Nolanabout a year ago in Lifehack
Make your dreams happen
How many of us are just going through the daily actions of our lives, without really working towards our goals? When you think about it, when was the last time that you really focused on your goals. And made sure that you were working towards them? It's so easy to let time pass us by, to waste time in our lives. Before we know it, one day becomes a week, becomes a month, becomes a year. Make sure that you are reaching for your goals at all times.
By Talara Nolanabout a year ago in Motivation