I am an aspiring writer currently writing a book on the Sober Revolution we are in the midst of, a book about essays that will change the way you think, and a novel about a serial killer. I am also working on a book of poetry.
Its Five O'Clock Somewhere
I’m in Costa Rica on vacation with my family, which is exactly as decadent as it sounds. I was lavished with mimosas from sun up to sun down. Spotted dolphins swam by. The food was subpar, but the champange in the mimosas made it all worthwhile, but then every night starts to sputter and skip. The beast was small but he was there.
Reason #187 to have a Unboyfriend
I decided to write about my unboyfriend because it seems that many of you are in the same boat, or at least you want to be. My daughter kept referring to my friend as my boyfriend, and I quite tersely answered repeatedly that he is not my boyfriend. If you take a minute to read my Sobriety vs Soulmates article, you will know why I can't have a soulmate at this time. So let me just jump in as to why the Unboyfriend works for ME. It may not work for you, and that's okay. My decision has nothing to do with any of you except myself and the guy I'm choosing to hang out with RIGHT NOW. I've decided to add "right now" to all my sentences because my moods change like Ohio weather. Jobs, relationships, and where I want to live when I retire change on the daily. So right now, this is why I have to be untethered.
- Top Story - March 2022
20 Bad DatesTop Story - March 2022
Realistically, I know within the first fifteen minutes of meeting a guy whether or not I'm going to like him.... until we get drunk. (Note: I don't drink anymore). It's funny how our rose colored beer goggles turn a guy into dateable material when they really should've been a booty call. I've had booty calls, friends with benefits, and I'm an ungirlfriend now.
On instagram the other day, I saw a woman post, "I don't want a smash and pass, but I don't want a boyfriend either." This is the best description I've seen about new, healthy relationships that are not permament, traditional relationships. Maybe it's because the AIDS crisis is mostly over, maybe too many people have lost everything in a divorce, or maybe it's because secular humanism is very common right now, but we are in the midst of a new sexual revolution, and I am loving every minute of it.
Show Up and Smile
I have finally made peace with something in the last week. My complicated relationship with my mother has haunted me for as long as I can remember. Isn't every parental relationship a love hate relationship? Why do I have to live in her shadow? Why is her shadow so large? Why is it so hurtful.