Before this goes too deep, let me just ask this...what is your purpose in life? Is your intention to use the person you front to the world you love, or is it really to take your place in the world and live your life to the fullest? If you think I'm talking about you, look at it this way: I'm talking to you, about you—no need to talk behind your back.
In some households, the only "talk" that was had was the birds and the bees. In other households, the "talk" or discussion rather, was how to stay out of the way of white men and white people in general. During this time, Black people wanted to be treated fairly, treated equally.