Pamela Dirr
Bio
I like to write based on my personal experiences. It helps me clear my mind. We all go through things in life. Good things. Not so good things. My experiences might also help other people with things that they might be going through.
Stories (41/0)
SUPPORT SMALL BUSINESSES
I own a small business. Well, technically, I own 1 small business and I am an Independent Consultant for another business. I buy from myself as much as I can (from the business that I’m an Independent Consultant for). The products are good, plus I make money back on my purchases from myself. So, it’s a win-win. My own small business, well, that one is struggling right now. It’s my fault though because I haven’t been devoting as much time to it as I should be. I need to really start marketing that one again though. The sales for the other company have declined tremendously as well. I’m trying to promote it more, but I need a larger area to promote it in.
By Pamela Dirrabout a year ago in Journal
STAY AWAY FROM TOXIC PEOPLE
Some people are toxic. Very, very toxic. These people just naturally have a poor outlook on, well, just about everything. For whatever reason, they just can’t seem to find the good in people or situations. These people will manipulate you into believing that everything you do is wrong. They will purposely try to sabotage goals that you have set for yourself. They will threaten you. They will bully you. They will see how far they can push you until they break you mentally. They will lie to you and say they want the best for you. They will gain your trust, only to turn their back on you. They will make you look like scum to everyone. Because of them, you will lose friends (because people don’t know how to think for themselves). Wait a second. Everything that I just wrote sounds like the traits of a narcissist. Yes. Yes, those are all traits of a narcissist as well.
By Pamela Dirrabout a year ago in Motivation
REMINISCING
She finished putting her laundry away and sat on her bed. She picked up her cat and knew she couldn’t have made it through the past couple of years without him. She’s single and alone in the world (except for family who live all over the place). The only constant in her life the past 7 years has been her cat. He always knows when something is bothering her. And this evening is no different. He gives her a look as if to say, “Don’t worry. We’ll get through this. We always get through everything.” She gives the cat a hug and pets him for a couple of minutes. Until he jumps off of her lap and goes to lap up some water.
By Pamela Dirrabout a year ago in Families
Sometimes Co-Workers are Difficult to Deal With
I love my job. No, seriously, I really do. I’ve been there for a few years. I enjoy it. Like the actual work of it. I’m not there just because of the money. I really do actually enjoy it. The work itself I mean. And most of my co-workers. But there are a few who make me feel like I’d rather just stay home. Those people make it unbearable to the point where I don’t like going to work. Honestly, I actually sometimes hate going to work. But I go anyway. Why? Because like I’ve already said 3 times lol I enjoy the work. But how do I deal with those colleagues who make the work less desirable for me? I put on the fake smile and fake happy attitude, and I go in anyway.
By Pamela Dirr2 years ago in Journal
JUST A FEW THOUGHTS
I’m 45 years old. Yes. 45. Years. Old. I’m single. I work 3 jobs just to be able to afford the basic necessities in life (apartment, car, auto insurance, renter’s insurance, food, fuel for my car, cell phone, streaming tv – because it’s less expensive than cable, cat food, etc). Plus, I have a small LLC business that I’m trying to get off the ground. Plus, I am an Independent Sales Consultant for Scentsy. But those two businesses don’t generate much income for me. Did I think I’d be like this at 45 years old? Definitely not. I thought I’d be married and have a child by now. I guess it’s just not in the cards for me though. And I’ve learned to accept that.
By Pamela Dirr2 years ago in Journal
IT'S OK TO DO WHAT YOU WANT
Everyone has certain goals that they want to achieve in life. Everyone’s goals are different. That’s what makes us all unique in our own ways. After all, if we were all the same, life would get pretty boring. It’s important to know that it’s ok to be different. It’s ok to want to do your own thing. It’s ok disagree with what other’s think you should be doing with your life. It’s ok to go to college. It’s ok to not go to college. It’s ok to have a typical 9a-5p career in an office. It’s ok to have a career where your hours are constantly changing. It’s ok to own your own home-based business and set your own hours. It’s ok to get married. It’s ok to remain single. It’s ok to have children. It’s ok to not have children. It’s ok to have pets. It’s ok to not have pets. I honestly don’t know what I’d do if I never rescued my cat 7 years ago. He’s brought a lot of joy into my life when I was going through difficult times. But that’s a topic for a different story.
By Pamela Dirr2 years ago in Motivation
Family IS FOREVER
Family is everything. Family is more than friendship. Family is the only group of people who you have in your life since the day you were born. “They” say don’t ever take your family for granted. I wholeheartedly believe in that. No matter how far away you might live from your family members - whether it’s 15 minutes, or 15 hours - never lose contact with your family members. Having friends is great; but friendships can end at any time. Although family members may fight at times, they’re still your family. Cherish them all the time. Keep in touch with them.
By Pamela Dirr3 years ago in Families
2019 YEAR IN REVIEW
I had a miserable 2019. Parts of it were good, but I had many stressful and trying times throughout the year. Thank goodness for my true friends who stuck by me through all of it. I will never be able to thank them enough for all that they did for me in 2019.
By Pamela Dirr3 years ago in Motivation
Why I Work Multiple Jobs
I live in Northern New Jersey. I was raised in a small town in Bergen County, NJ. Everything is super expensive here. You can’t live comfortably unless you’re making six figures. I’m lucky to be making five figures with three jobs. Yes, you read that correctly, I work THREE jobs. PLUS I’m trying to get a small side business going. And it’s not like I spend my money foolishly either. Actually, I hate spending money. I don’t buy anything unless I absolutely have to. My main bills are rent, car payment, car insurance, cell phone, PSE&G, water bill, and Netflix. Yes, I have Netflix. I have neither cable nor WiFi. I have unlimited data on my cell phone and use it has a hotspot to connect my cell phone to my iPad over Bluetooth. I’m not home enough to make good use of a cable plan, so if I feel like watching something, I look on Netflix. Everything in Northern Jersey is expensive; however, I’m reluctant to move out of state. All of the certifications I have are good only in New Jersey. It would be very time consuming and expensive for me to get certifications in another state. I cannot afford to not work. I wouldn’t be able to even afford my car payment if I wasn’t working. So I can’t take the time to get out of state certifications. So instead I stay in New Jersey and I struggle to make ends meet every month. At this point, I’m happy that I can get my bills paid.
By Pamela Dirr4 years ago in Journal
A Message for the Younger Generation
I’m a bicentennial baby. Yes, I was born in 1976. My parents are Army vets. Yes, I said Army vets. I grew up in a caring household. My parents weren’t overly strict, but they also didn’t let me do whatever I wanted whenever I wanted. They set boundaries to ensure that we were safe. They taught me morals and values. I had a healthy balance of dependence and independence. I knew that if I wanted any success in life that I would have to work at myself. Nothing was handed to me. My parents taught me how to be responsible for myself and for my actions. If I did something wrong, I had to own up to it. There was no “all inclusion” for things. If we wanted to be a part of something we had to try out for it, or meet certain criteria for it. When I go to work, I know that I have to perform my best if I want to be a good employee. I’ve noticed that things aren’t like that with the younger generation. I’ve noticed myself clashing a lot with the younger adults of today.
By Pamela Dirr4 years ago in Motivation
A Day in the Life
No, I am not Kermit the frog. I am just trying to make it in this world as a single female. I feel that I am faced with many inequalities and struggles. I feel like I am constantly trying to prove myself to men. No female should ever have to feel like that. I can do anything that a man can do….. And I have proven that to men time and time again. I have taken on every challenge that men have given me. And I have succeeded. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. I should not HAVE to prove myself to ANYONE except for myself. But, I do love seeing the looks on men’s faces when they did not think I could do something.
By Pamela Dirr4 years ago in Motivation
New Year. New Me. New Attitude
I usually make New Year’s resolutions. I did not do that this year. Last year opened my eyes to a lot of things. My circle of friends got smaller. I was reminded that I am the only one who is in control of my life. I cannot rely on anyone else to make me happy. I did a lot of thinking last year and I reminded myself that there are things that are never going to change. There are people who will really never care about anyone else except themselves. Those are the people who are manipulative and will do whatever they have to do to make themselves look good and other people look bad. I do not want to associate with people like that. That is not who I am. People did a lot of damage to me last year, and I have spent the past few months trying to get out of a major slump. I am not back to 100 percent yet, but I am definitely doing better than I was 3 or 4 months ago.
By Pamela Dirr4 years ago in Motivation
