For years I thought that intimacy was sex and that the connection or bond was emotion. Somehow, I was failing to see that two are bound together like a helix. The two woven together and around each other keeps a relationship healthy.
Male chastity is not new; the origins are a bit clouded in history. Still, the idea of orgasm control fascinates so many. When you start in chastity, it may seem daunting or it may be pure excitement. So many think you can just lock up a penis and that’s it, yet there is so much more to this journey.
How many times have we read in media, fiction or non fiction, about abuse hiding in the guise of BDSM? It not only puts a negative light on a community of genuine people but it puts a stereotype on us all.
When you are thinking about sex, sensual, kink or the gambits in-between. Think of competing sensations and how you can use them to your advantage as a lover. You might surprise yourself or your partner.
In my time within the BDSM community, I have come across so many types of Doms. Yes, this is the male identifying version of a Dom. There are good ones and bad ones. You will find you can be one of these types or many mixed together. The key to being a good Dom is to know the basics, know yourself and your own limits.
When you think BDSM you think Dom/me type and subtypes, but how many are there really. The most common being sub and slave but there are some more common types that people relate to more then those too. I truly believe in educating myself and others to explore sexuality and BDSM is included in that.