Fem + Domme = Female Dominate. However and very traditionally, this was a female led and male submissive relationship. In this new era of inclusion this becomes female led with any variation of submissive partner. I am, personally, what you call heteroflexible. This means I am attracted to men for relationships but if the right person came along that was not male; I would be open to possibilities. So for the purpose of the remainder of this article I will address Femdom as female led and male submissive.
Our communities are ever-evolving and changing. New people and old hats alike always need to be aware of some of the basic guidelines we must follow as we have seen a drastic decline in old practices of lifestyle families and mentoring. The families and clubs gave newcomers a strong base of ethics and community rules. These venues also allowed a safety net of inclusiveness, non-judgment, and acceptance.
There are 4 types of consent within our society and I have listed and defined them below. It is so important now, more than ever, that we look at how we see consent. This needs to be a topic of conversation, a topic of education, a topic to be defined. I have put together Active Energetic Consent as a relevant way to explore the mandatory topic.
What does it really mean to be in this type of relationship? This type of Dynamic really falls on the fringe of BDSM. It’s not a mainstream fetish at all. The fringe only means that it is not the root or common prototype model when thinking of classic BDSM.
We all have fantasies, and in that fantasy we create a version of ourselves that embodies sensual or an erotic being that we are not afraid to be. Whether we are dominant or submissive, playful or flirty, we all have no fear of our erotic persona when it's in our own mind. So why is it so hard to give a voice to our erotic ideas?
My first question when thinking about this very topic is, “Why do we consume another animal’s milk when humans can make their own compatible source?” It is so hard to understand or fathom that it is a societal norm to drink fluid that is expressed from a four-legged beast with four stomachs. What had to happen to get us to this point, really?