When I am not reading or taking pictures I am writing. I spend my time with my dogs or in the realm of kink. Just a girl with a kinky side on a quest to educate and help through. You can also find my posts on my blog www.calgarydomme.com
50 Shades? I'm In. Now What?
Since the idea and forming of the kinky community we have always had mentors. But now we have Google, it's probably how you found this article. So welcome to my creative world of kink.
Key Saftey Tips for the New Kink Explorer
Since the idea and forming of the kinky community, we have always had mentors. But now we have Google, it's probably how you found this article. So welcome to my creative world of kink.
Let's Talk About Sex
Let’s talk, about sex for a minute. I know, that’s a fast hard statement. Yet, I talk to so many couples where sex becomes a fight. Either the sex drive scale is out of whack or they simply are not getting what they want. Seems easy right? Not so much. What needs to happen first off, is a disconnect from what you have been taught. That’s right…TAUGHT. Weather it was from childhood observations, media, advertising, or even life, we simply need to retrain our brains.
Femdom from the Female Led Perspective
Fem + Domme = Female Dominate. However and very traditionally, this was a female led and male submissive relationship. In this new era of inclusion this becomes female led with any variation of submissive partner. I am, personally, what you call heteroflexible. This means I am attracted to men for relationships but if the right person came along that was not male; I would be open to possibilities. So for the purpose of the remainder of this article I will address Femdom as female led and male submissive.
Community Basics: A Gentle Reminder for the Alternative Lifestyle Communities
Our communities are ever-evolving and changing. New people and old hats alike always need to be aware of some of the basic guidelines we must follow as we have seen a drastic decline in old practices of lifestyle families and mentoring. The families and clubs gave newcomers a strong base of ethics and community rules. These venues also allowed a safety net of inclusiveness, non-judgment, and acceptance.
Active Energetic Consent
There are 4 types of consent within our society and I have listed and defined them below. It is so important now, more than ever, that we look at how we see consent. This needs to be a topic of conversation, a topic of education, a topic to be defined. I have put together Active Energetic Consent as a relevant way to explore the mandatory topic.
Fringe Fetishes: Daddy Dom, Mommy Domme and Their Littles
What does it really mean to be in this type of relationship? This type of Dynamic really falls on the fringe of BDSM. It’s not a mainstream fetish at all. The fringe only means that it is not the root or common prototype model when thinking of classic BDSM.
An Empowered Erotic Persona
We all have fantasies, and in that fantasy we create a version of ourselves that embodies sensual or an erotic being that we are not afraid to be. Whether we are dominant or submissive, playful or flirty, we all have no fear of our erotic persona when it's in our own mind. So why is it so hard to give a voice to our erotic ideas?