Writer, reader, life-long student. Socialism, witchcraft, and chill.
Beauty and Grace
When I was 8 years old, I used to spend every Thursday and Friday with my great Aunt. I thought she was the most beautiful woman in the world; she was fabulously big and sophisticated, she wore silk kaftans in bright colours and had wide-toed, patent and animal print shoes that matched her handbags and glasses. Despite being in her 60s she was always beautifully presented and made up, and she smelled always of clean fabric and white flowers.
How to Masturbate (Well)
Masturbation is a part of life, but few people take the time to really explore their bodies. This is a real shame; the benefits of masturbation are huge, both in immediate and long term senses. From reduced stress to a reduced risk of prostate cancer, both men and women can benefit from a healthy intimate relationship with their own bodies.
15 Spectacular Self-Date Ideas
Self-dating is set to be the hot new trend in self-love, self-development, and empowerment. Learning to treat yourself with the same love and care as your partner is just one of the many reasons why singles should consider self-dating.
Getting to Know You(rself)
When I was growing up sexual health was discussed in three ways; puberty, avoidance of pregnancy and STDs, and the consequences of pregnancy and STDs. In the small British town I grew up in, even in the 90s, there was a puritan streak that has only recently started to fade.
Is Lust Overrated?
While being stood up for the eighth time this year (yes, really), I found myself flicking through a blog post about how the difference between lust and like can mess with our heads. It's short, but personal and very, very honest, and as I ruminated on the obvious hurt and confusion in the worlds while marinaitng in margarita I realise that there's something key at the heart of it.
How to Ask for a Raise
In a perfect world, we would all be paid a fair and representative salary for our skills, experience, and level of responsibility. Of course, the world is not perfect and many people go to work feeling underappreciated and under-rewarded. If this sounds like you it's important to understand that you can control the trajectory of your career if you have the right mindset. If this sounds like one of those 'Make Your First Million' books, don't worry; it's not sensationalism, just solid advice from someone who regularly has to barter for a fair wage. As a freelancer, getting paid what I'm worth is not only difficult, it's overwhelmingly important to being able to pay my bills. Here's what I've learned.
Was it Something I Said?
According to Bustle 80% of millennials have been ghosted by someone they were dating, and while rejection is never pleasant it can be much harder to cope when someone you like simply drops you. Ghosting is very much a modern trend, and while we'd like to think we're all above it the truth is most of us have done it at some point, too. The soft ghost, sometimes called the 'zombie', and breadcrumbing (giving someone just enough attention to keep them interested) are supposedly less offensive versions of the big G. Of course, there are those who would say that watching someone slowly drift away from you is worse... Whether you're in the middle of that process, seeing them slip further and further away, or you've been completely ghosted it can be hard to know what to do.
Musky air, warm and linen scented, sleep heavy - Filled with soft, hush hush breathing, and fur muffled snuffles. A stretch of steely, whipcord muscles,