Melissa Bezborotko
Bio
I never know what to write here! I am a mother to two beautiful daughters. As my full-time job, I handle freight and logistics for an office supply company. I enjoy the gym as an outlet for life's stressors, I and I have my own radio show.
Stories (35/0)
Dear Maureen,
Dear Maureen, Thank you so much for your wonderful care during my therapy sessions. Without your advice and guidance, I would not be the woman I am today. When Haylee and I first came to you I was a lost human. Realizing that my daughter is different then most toddlers her age, I didn't know what to do. My husband left us and I was burning out as a parent. You helped us by diagnosing Haylee on the autism spectrum. We later found out Haylee also has ADHD, speech delays, and developmental delays. As months went on I became depressed and developed bad anxiety from Haylee's behaviour problems. My friends and family wanted to be there for me but they didn't know-how. I was having a hard time dealing with so much on my plate with Haylee, my job, and trying to put food on the table. You opened up your door to me. I was hesitant at first to see a phycologist because I had a bad experience as a child, but I had to put that aside and give you a chance. After all, you helped with putting together a great support team for Haylee. We got together every week for six months at the start. You were always flexible with my appointments. At first, I had zero confidence in myself, I was depressed, and felt that I was alone with Haylee in this big world. I was so heartbroken from my husband leaving that I thought no one was ever going to love me again, especially with a special child. We did some great exercises on confidence and you taught me self-care. You helped me work through the emotional pain I experienced in my relationship with Haylee's dad. Within the first year, I had the confidence to make some friends. From there I met my first boyfriend since my husband. It didn't last long because Haylee was a bit too much for him, but you were right there to help me through that emotion. To help me see that the right man was out there. When I lost my job of eleven years, you were there to help me build confidence to get another job. We even rehearsed interviews together and I got a new career in fitness. Without your guidance in helping me land that job, I wouldn't have discovered powerlifting and be the powerlifter I am today. I have two silver medals hanging around my neck because of your encouragement. Plus, It has been a great outlet for my mental health.
By Melissa Bezborotko 3 years ago in Humans
Music and Mood
I had a thought the other day about music and decided to write about it today. I listen to music every day, pretty much all day. I have music on in the car, I have music on at my desk while working, I have music on when I'm cleaning at home, and when I'm at the gym. I have music on getting ready to go out, and I have music on when I'm taking my bubble bath. Now, depending on my mood depends on my music. In the car and at my desk I listen to a local radio station, Play 92.1 FM. They play throwbacks from the '90s and early 2000s. This music pumps me up! It reminds me of simpler times in high school. Memories with my classmates, and being at night clubs in my early 20's. When I'm cleaning I listen to the same type of music, only I use YouTube playlists on my TV. At the gym, I listen to old-school R&B/ Hip Hop from 90's early 2000's, but only if I'm using the gym's speakers and Spotify. If I'm listening to my iPod, it's Country. I know weird right? While taking in some self-care I listen to spa music or instrumental. I have a special "Bath Time" playlist on my iTunes.
By Melissa Bezborotko 3 years ago in Beat
The Hunt For Love
"Ok teams here is tonight's list," Anna said while handing out everyone a piece of paper. Once a month our friends get together for a scavenger hunt. It is a fun way to have a date night. My friend Anna came up with this date night as an ice breaker for first dates, or a reason for our married friends to get out of the house. Tonight I was a little nervous because it was the first date with a guy I met off a dating app. We have been talking for a few weeks now and tonight was our official meet face to face.
By Melissa Bezborotko 3 years ago in Humans
Not So Jedi Purchase
2020 was already a different kind of year for everyone. I'm pretty sure I don't need to explain why! So, if you're like me you wanted to keep your shopping in the malls limited over the holidays. I swear I spent more time on social media in 2020 just looking at ads. In November and December, I bought every Christmas gift off either Facebook or Instagram. I purchased a light-up piano for my autistic daughter, I purchased my oldest daughter a crown ring, I purchased my brother-in-law a small projector to watch Netflix on in his room, I even purchased a star in the sky for my stepdaughter, and many more cool items. I felt pretty good about my purchases. They all even arrived on time. Except one! It was a duel lightsaber from Star Wars. The video and pictures for this item were epic! Here let me show you...
By Melissa Bezborotko 3 years ago in Humans
Be My Date Tonight
"Missy we need more Merlot!" Jessica said to me pouring the last of the red wine into her glass. "Oh, I have something perfect for us" I replied walking towards the kitchen, "I took this quiz on Bright Cellars website, and it picked out a wine that matched my answers. So, I bought it!"
By Melissa Bezborotko 3 years ago in Humans
My fairytale in a pandemic
For the past year, we have all been through emotional times since the announcement of a global pandemic at the beginning of 2020. We have been through budgeting troubles, loss of jobs, and businesses being shut down. There has been sickness and death. Restrictions and shutdowns. The list goes on. We are all living on the same earth, but not living in the same story.
By Melissa Bezborotko 3 years ago in Humans
Reality VS Reality
Let’s talk reality shows. What is a reality show? According to the dictionary: a reality show is a television program in which ordinary people are continuously filmed, designed to be entertaining rather than informative. They are the cheapest to produce, but the most popular television programs to watch.
By Melissa Bezborotko 3 years ago in Humans
The Bad Nights
Having children in general is no picnic all the time. Having children with more challenging behaviors is even harder. My daughter has Autism, ADHD, speech delays and big development delays. When Matt (my boyfriend) is around Haylee is more manageable with her behaviors, but when she gets me alone its very frustrating. Tonight Matt was a work, so it was just Haylee and I. I was hoping to start the night off right by picking up Haylee’s favorite McDonalds meal before getting her from daycare. She has been asking for McDonalds all week. Which has been the cause of meltdowns in the car the past 3 nights; Having no burger ready for the car ride home. So tonight I’m prepared. I got the burger!
By Melissa Bezborotko 3 years ago in Families
Letting Go!
We have all been there. The choices of the past! The decisions we wish we never made, but made them. You sit there and contemplate, “If I never did this what would my life be like?” For me its one decision I made over, and over again. The same bad decision for 14 years! Yeah I typed that right, 14 years! Kept going back to my ex. You’d think after having to cancel a wedding two weeks before because you found out all summer he was seeing someone else. You’d think after he left to another province, and never called you once for three months. You’d think after he finally calls and asks you to come move in with him, than dumps you in front of all his friends after announcing that you’re pregnant. Then having to drive across provinces in the dead of a winter storm to move back home. You’d think after he came back from said province, and forced you to have an abortion with that child he dumped you over. You’d think after you get pregnant for a second time, (he asked me for a child) and him not catering to any of your pregnant needs. You’d think after having the baby, and him cheating on you with a mutual high school friend for months. (Her husband contacted me on the affair). You’d think after he tells you not to go back to school because I’ll never amount to anything. You’d never go back! but I kept coming back after all these things. What finally stopped me from coming back to him was my family. My family made him leave with out saying a word to me. I came home one day to find all his stuff gone. He left wonderful, muddy foot prints everywhere for me to clean up. My family moved me out to a smaller place so there would be no room in my life for him to come back. Haylee’s wonderful support team got together, and offered me support. Like I said in “Taking Care Of You” post, If I’m not healthy how can I take care of anyone else.
By Melissa Bezborotko 3 years ago in Motivation
Taking Care of You!
One thing I wished I learned early on in life is to take care of me first. We all don’t want to be selfish, and have that need to put other people first. Of course there is nothing wrong with that. Taking care of other people is compassion towards other humans. I’m talking about self-compassion. How can you take care of others if you are not well. Self-compassion increases self-Improvement. When we improve ourselves we can than help others improve. Whether that be friends or family, or just show compassion to a stranger on the street.
By Melissa Bezborotko 3 years ago in Families
