Mary Flannigan

Hurting Hurts Each Other

I have been on the other side of ghosting so many times, and had sworn I would never do it, knowing how bad it sucks to have no clarity in an ending, but in toxic instances I thought it would be okay. I thought if I just blocked or unfriended every toxic person in my life, or other half of a relationship that had been toxic I’d be able to start out fresh. I didn’t anticipate the feelings of dread and guilt I’d experience from choosing to move on. I came to genuinely believe that I was a bad person for shutting people out, even if these people and their actions had severely affected my mental health. It ate me up inside so much these past few years, I really would never ghost again, even if the idea of ending toxic relationships with words gives me so much anxiety. I am just so bad with conflict.