For the sake of this article, I will be using she/her pronouns, but it is important to note that periods and menstruation occur in people of all different genders and pronouns.
It took me days and days to feel okay enough to publish this. I'm sitting at my desk, staring at my computer screen listening to the rain as I read this over and over and over again, debating whether or not to hit publish. I'm uncomfortable with the finality of hitting that button even though I know I need to do this. Not for you, or my family or my past; but for me, right now in this moment and for my future self. I need to let go of the fear and the control you have over me and have had over me since I was little. You don't control me anymoreand I refuse to let the thought of you stop me from living my life. I know I should have done this a long time ago but I'm proud of myself for feeling worth it enough to do it now. I'm done pretending nothing happened and secretly letting you tear me apart behind the closed doors of my mind. I'm done with it. I don't want you in my head anymore, and I will not let what you said and put me through stop me from becoming who I want and deserve to be.
This is not medical advice. All opinions in this article are based on personal experience and independent research. If you have any concerns about you or someone you know, please seek the appropriate supports.
Any information given is based upon my experience and is not to replace medical or psychiatric care.
As Pride Month comes to an end, it is important to remember that queer pride should not just be reserved for one month of the year. LGBTQ+ pride needs to be 24/7, 365 days a year. The acceptance of queer and trans youth is especially important in the home and between family. For some parents, the thought of having an LGBTQ+ child may be difficult to understand, for others, it never even comes to mind until their child comes out. The fact is that queer and trans youth that are accepted by their families are much less likely to commit suicide, or suffer with depression surrounding their sexuality or gender identity. In general, acceptance increases thehappiness in the home, and in the child.
I was 13 the first time anyone noticed I was struggling. My grades in school started to slip, I lost friends, and I began to isolate myself. It was scary to have people ask me questions and want to change my routine. I didn't trust them, I thought, "There's no way they will understand this." While I still understand this thought, I realize that it was not 100 percent the case.