Writing about trauma, personality disorders, abuse and psychology in general
4 Lies You Are Told About What Attracts Abusive Personalities
I have heard such nonsense about what attracts people with personality disorders on the internet. I am diagnosed with a personality disorder, and in my experience, a lot of the stuff I’ve seen are nothing but myths.
Why Most Empaths Are In Fact Narcissists In Disguise
Empath is not an officially recognised mental health disorder. There is something referred to as a Highly Sensitive Person. This, however, does not mean someone with high levels of empathy but someone who has sensory processing sensitivity. It is not an officially recognised mental health disorder either.
12 Red Flags of an Abuser: How to Spot Someone with a Personality Disorder on the First Date
1. Insecure attachment style Abuse is the result of insecure attachment styles and trauma. Sometimes I read articles that claim, “Well, you don’t know your abusive partner is a narcissist — they may just be a regular asshole”, when the truth is abuse is always a sign of psychopathology. There is no such thing as someone who just wakes up one day and decides to become an abuser. There has to be a past of childhood trauma, whether it was emotional, physical or sexual abuse.
Why Do Some People Want to Be Psychopaths?
A lot of traumatized people, including psychopaths themselves, have a deep desire to be psychopaths because someone who never feels negative emotions, doesn’t care about people, gets to hurt them but doesn’t experience pain in return is an ideal being for them.
Do Psychopaths Know They Are Psychopaths?
Psychopaths are usually aware of what a psychopath is and that they have psychopathic traits, however, most are never sure whether they are one or not. This can be the case even if they have a diagnosis of Antisocial Personality Disorder.
What We Get Wrong About Addictive Disorders
Addiction has a bad reputation, but one can easily argue that it is healthy and normal for humans to become addicted. We all get addicted to things. For example, in a romantic relationship, we crave the presence of the other person and following the end of the relationship, we become depressed for a period. Isn’t this technically a withdrawal symptom?
3 Lessons to Be Learnt From the Death of a Loved One
Recently I’ve received the news that my grandma’s Alzheimer’s has worsened— she’s dying. I hadn’t had the chance to see her for a long time because she lives in a different country. Seeing what she looks like now was startling as I’d always remembered her as lively, cheerful and energetic.
Character Analysis: Narcissistic Personality Disorder
The name of Narcissistic Personality Disorder comes from the Legend of Narcissus, which tells the story of a man who sees his own reflection in a pond and falls in love with it. But this man does not fall in love with himself, he falls in love with his false self, which is a mere reflection. The narcissist’s false self is what he would like to be but cannot; someone who is invulnerable and perfect. His desire to make the false self seem real causes the narcissist to depend on other people to reflect this self back at him.
Abuser Typologies: Narcissist, Psychopath and Borderline
This is the typology of abusers that Jacobson and Gottman came up with as featured in Kevin Dutton’s book The Wisdom of Psychopaths. Cobra (on the left) correlates with Antisocial Personality Disorder and Pitbull (on the right) with Borderline Personality Disorder. The narcissistic abuser would be in between these two:
3 Things Abusive Parents Fail To Teach Their Children
1. That having needs is not a weakness Children with these parents either don’t have their needs met or have these needs used against them. This eventually leads them to develop a distaste towards needing anyone or anything. They try to become as self-reliant as possible because if they can meet their own needs, other people can’t hold these needs against them.