12 Red Flags of an Abuser: How to Spot Someone with a Personality Disorder on the First Date
1. Insecure attachment style
Abuse is the result of insecure attachment styles and trauma. Sometimes I read articles that claim, “Well, you don’t know your abusive partner is a narcissist — they may just be a regular asshole”, when the truth is abuse is always a sign of psychopathology. There is no such thing as someone who just wakes up one day and decides to become an abuser. There has to be a past of childhood trauma, whether it was emotional, physical or sexual abuse.
