A qualified counsellor and an even more qualified queer. I specialise in victims of rape and sexual assault. I also have a degree in behaviour analysis.
Misogyny and the Masc/Femme Dynamic
I love my wife, she’s funny, smart, kind, gorgeous, and just generally brilliant. She’s masculine-presenting, and after a brief foray into the “butchy femme” arena, she’s decided that she’s the former.
Covert Narcissists and the Constant Need for Admiration
Everyone likes to be complimented, it makes you feel positive and like you’re doing something right. And nobody likes to be ignored, especially when they’re trying to get someone’s attention. But not everybody has to be praised all the time, normal people don’t need constant attention to feel valuable. Normal people can just kind of exist without being told how great they are at it.
Covert Narcissists and Public Embarrassment
Embarrassing someone in public is an awful thing to do, the person doing it thinks it makes them look good. But to the casual observer they just look like a shitty person and a bully, nobody is impressed. Both overt and covert narcissists love to use public embarrassment or humiliation to make themselves feel better. It’s the only way they can feel a little sliver of happiness in their empty soulless lives.
The Narcissistic Mother: Who is She and How do I Spot Her?
My wife is appalled when I tell her some of the things my mother used to call me: Ungainly Oafish Fat Ugly Naive Clumsy Useless Greedy Annoying Piggish Angry Unpleasant Stupid
A Year Of Unemployment
I’ve been unemployed since last September, that’s a year now. I’ve never been without a job for that long. I’m a fully qualified counsellor and have been working as a rape and sexual violence counsellor for many years. But unfortunately, due to budget cuts, someone’s job had to go and I was last in so I was first out. Hardly fair but that’s the way they operated so there was nothing I could do about it.
The Psychological Impact of Gaslighting
Thankfully we talk about gaslighting a lot more than we used to, pretty much everyone knows what it is and they know somebody who does it. And anyone can be a gaslighter, the only qualification you need is to be a total dick.
Being Supply To A Covert Narcissist
Narcissistic supply is something that the narcissist sees in an individual. Whether it’s the fact that they can be easily manipulated, that they have abandonment issues that they can take advantage of, or that they shower them with compliments.
The Major and the Mad Man
A life half-lived was our driving force. We couldn’t make the same mistakes that she did. She married all the wrong ones, and they trampled all over her wandering spirit.