A qualified counsellor and an even more qualified queer. I specialise in victims of rape and sexual assault. I also have a degree in behaviour analysis.
Truth Wizardry and Lie Detection:
Long story short, Dr Paul Ekman, a renowned psychologist coined the term “truth wizards.” The term was used in an experiment to describe individuals who have a natural ability to detect deception.
There’s No Such Thing as Karma
Whenever I see a post about karma on social media it always makes me laugh, but not because it’s funny. It makes me laugh because I still can’t believe there are people out there who think karma is real. Like the universe is somehow on your side and will cosmically punish the people who have wronged you. It doesn’t work like that, being a good person counts for very little in the grand scheme of things. The universe doesn’t owe you a favour because you’ve been nice. It should be like that, the world would be so much better if it were a little more transactional. You put a little bit of niceness in, you get a little niceness back. How great would that be?
Hustle Culture Toxic AF and it Needs to be Cancelled
Now don’t get me wrong, I like money, I don’t have it but I like it. I enjoy shopping and I am over the moon on those rare occasions when there’s more money coming into my bank than there is leaving it.
She’s a Pathological Liar and a Narcissist
Meet Joan, she’s a 60-year-old mother of 2, currently unemployed but she’s telling everyone she’s a manager for a recruitment company. She also says she has cancer, but she doesn’t.
A Month Without Music
My music taste is pretty all-encompassing, I like everything from rap to rockabilly. The only thing I’m not a big fan of is death metal, the wife loves it, but it’s not for me. And working from home allows me to listen to music whenever I feel like it. Unfortunately, I always feel like it. And the more depressed I feel, the more music I want to hear, it’s always happy, fast, or dramatic songs. I’ve never been into slow songs or songs that make you cry, there’s enough to cry about in this world, why would you want music to be the source of your sadness?
Overt Narcissistic Abuse: How to Spot it and What to do About it
Thankfully, we know a lot more than we used to about narcissism. People are now aware that narcissists are everywhere and they can be anybody. They can be your friend, your spouse, even your own mother. And whilst people can spot a narcissist much more easily now, spotting narcissistic abuse can be a lot harder.
Misogyny and the Masc/Femme Dynamic
I love my wife, she’s funny, smart, kind, gorgeous, and just generally brilliant. She’s masculine-presenting, and after a brief foray into the “butchy femme” arena, she’s decided that she’s the former.
Covert Narcissists and the Constant Need for Admiration
Everyone likes to be complimented, it makes you feel positive and like you’re doing something right. And nobody likes to be ignored, especially when they’re trying to get someone’s attention. But not everybody has to be praised all the time, normal people don’t need constant attention to feel valuable. Normal people can just kind of exist without being told how great they are at it.