Lena Bailey

Lena Bailey

A hot mess with a heart of gold. Kinky, nerdy and maybe part witch

If you have any questions or comments email me, [email protected]

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  • Lena Bailey
    Published 2 years ago
    '13 Reasons Why' Delayed?

    '13 Reasons Why' Delayed?

    Now honestly, this show was hard to watch, but I still liked it. A lot of people were saying it was drawn out or melodramatic. Well, teenagers tend to be melodramatic. TV dramas also tend to draw things out. I know some people have had problems with it. The main group was parents. The other groups were people with suicidal thoughts and those who have lost loved ones to suicide.
  • Lena Bailey
    Published 2 years ago
    Suicide in the Headlines

    Suicide in the Headlines

    If you are sensitive to the idea of suicide, please do not read any further. This post might also include spoilers, so be warned.
  • Lena Bailey
    Published 2 years ago
    DDLG/Age Play vs Pedophilia and Incest

    DDLG/Age Play vs Pedophilia and Incest

    I get frustrated when people don't know the difference because incest and pedophilia are so far from DDLG and age play. Pedophilia is where people have a sexual attraction to minors or little kids. Incest is when you're attracted to or do sexual stuff with people that are related to you by blood. DDLG or any related dynamic is a pure thing that people get into for many reasons. My Dom said that he's into DDLG because he needs to be needed, not because he's attracted to little kids or his family. He also loves to protect me and be there for me. Most caretakers feel the same way. They crave this feeling of being needed and to nurture. Caregivers have a desire that is stronger than most people to do these things. DDLG or age play also isn't about molestation fantasy or anything similar. DDLG is about love, respect, taking care of each other and nurturing the little. It makes sense to those who realize what these types of dynamics are really about.
  • Lena Bailey
    Published 3 years ago
    BDSM Slaves

    BDSM Slaves

    It is really hard to talk about roles in BDSM because everyone does each role their way. The way you do a role is up to you because it's what you are comfortable with. I recently talked to two very misinformed individuals. They seriously thought that my master controlled everything I did. In reality, my master has rules for me that I have to follow. The rules are stuff like no more than one or two drinks of hard alcohol, a curfew for days I have to work and I have to tell him when I'm anxious. So, as you see, it's respect and safety-based stuff. There are some slave girls who want their master to have more control than that, but most want to be able to control some parts of their lives. There are even some masters that let you make decisions about certain things like family, friends and work. Most masters want you to set boundaries, so that you can have safe space in your life that's just yours.
  • Lena Bailey
    Published 3 years ago
    Why I No Longer Chase People

    Why I No Longer Chase People

    I understand that people get busy with their lives, but if you don't message me ever and you don't have a good reason, why would I want to keep chasing you or try with you? If you don't try with me, why would I try with you? My former best friend accused me of starting drama which I wouldn't and didn't, and she was victim shaming me after my sexual assault, which she may have done without knowing, but still. So when she started to not message me anymore I thought OK, I knew this was coming, so that's fine. I think that she also had a problem with my kink lifestyle. So I decided to move on, I figured I outgrew her and she got busy. Guys, sometimes people don't message you and you realize that it was a blessing. You also realize sometimes that you out grow people and it's OK. I tried to message her recently to no answer and I knew it was time to move on. Does it hurt? Yes. Does it suck? Yes. Can you get over it? Yes.
  • Lena Bailey
    Published 3 years ago
    BDSM Is Not Abuse

    BDSM Is Not Abuse

    I'm an abuse survivor and I've seen abusive doms. So please believe me when I say that I know the difference between abuse and BDSM. Anything that happens in consensual BDSM relationships is desired by both parties. In a BDSM relationship everything is negotiated. Anything that happens outside of that is abuse. The reason so many people confuse BDSM with abuse is because we are conditioned to believe that abuse look like the girl getting beat up or her being controlled. So when we see someone with bruises or being controlled we think that they are being abused. Yes abuse is possible but they can also be in a BDSM relationship.