As of TODAY, here is the list of things that I think are SO IMPORTANT to us right now. These aren't in any particular order, and I'm 100% certain that I've forgotten some important ones.
2020. Thanksgiving. What an odd time to be a alive, let alone celebrate a holiday and feel grateful for what we have. According to a tweet that I can't find and therefore cannot properly credit, it's the perfect time to learn about coming to peoples' homes when you shouldn't, spreading diseases in the process.
Lately, tough conversations are all around us. It’s not easy to get through the day without discussing something that my lovely grandmother would gracefully sidestep.
Trigger warning: sexual assault, grooming
This is going to be very different from what I normally write. If you are a friend of mine, I would appreciate a check-in with me before you read this. If you are new, welcome. I’m sure this found you for a reason. I don’t want to submit this. I will anyway.
(Older millennials/those raised by older parents, this applies to you, too).
My parents are members of Generation X, those born between 1965-1980. Latchkey kids, invisibly and accidentally abused by their parents in various ways. They have moved past it, accepted it, apologized for the ways that their parents negatively impacted the ways in which they responded to my issues in my childhood. If you're a parent of a non-adult child, and were born between 1960-1990, consider this: have you healed your trauma, or have you just passed it on to your child?
I'm an anxious person. Diagnosed, as a matter of fact! I have various other issues, some diagnosed, some self-diagnosed, some physical, some mental. Debilitating issues. My life is pretty easy, despite that. I have a good supports, I good job, and a rich inner life. My parents had me when they were young, and I was an only child; I like to joke that I was a middle-aged woman before I turned 19. I now know that all of those ways that I rushed to grow up were just a way for me to feel safe and in control of my life. Lately, I've been working on letting go.