When your life has been tumultuous, you develop an amazing set of skills.
A lot of times, you hear people with medical or mental health conditions "disown" their diagnoses. They refrain from saying "my cancer", or, "my anxiety"—and for good reason. It has been shown that by separating yourself from your illness, you don't take on the negative attributes; you are not your illness.
Can I compare your brain to building a house? Yes I can, and quite easily.
"Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"—ain't that the truth. But have you ever wondered why women hold other women more accountable for their behaviour than they do men?