Dating an anxious-avoidant person can be hard work. This was my attachment style for years. I’m certain the people I dated had whiplash from my push and pull behaviors.
When we feel triggered by a situation, smell or even by another person’s traits, we may feel as if our world is caving in and suffocating us.
Here’s the thing, insecure relationships are addictive. If you’re trying to change your attachment style to secure, remember this. You may be at risk of getting sucked back into old dating patterns.
I struggled with my mental health for years but didn’t think I had a problem. I was riding an emotional rollercoaster for so long, I accepted these high and low states as part of who I was. I labeled myself as being a sensitive person. Emotions flooded my brain in certain situations while I floundered about trying self-regulate.
years ago, my grandmother and I were walking to get groceries when I dropped a 5c coin. I looked down and shrugged it off. In my mind, it was an insignificant amount so I kept walking.
Before I met my girlfriend online I went on dates with a bunch of people from Tinder. I learned most people online were afraid of commitment.