I recently had a friend breakup. It's been one of the hardest breakups I've had. You never expect to get so attached to people, but then when you do, you don't realize it until it's over. In my case, I felt like I had been protecting myself so much from romantic relationships. I thought that by investing myself in my friends for a while, I would be "safe." The truth is that there may always be someone to show you that you've left yourself a little too open.
I'll always remember how much moving to California made me a minimalist. I moved four times that first year. It was the first time I moved cross country from my home state of Texas. At the time, I told myself whatever I couldn't fit into my Explorer I wouldn't take with me. I didn't realize it then but I was preparing myself for a long journey which involved packing light. What I ended up taking with me was mostly clothes, kitchen stuff, and music. I even had a blow-up mattress that I could fold up so it would be compact. I was naturally becoming a minimalist! Now, seven years later, I've lived in a total of six places in this city! Even though I have furniture now, I've still managed to keep things to a minimum.
There’s been so much talk about sexual offenders in the celebrity circuit, I felt the need to address the issue. As a woman who is against the horrors of rape, I also believe that there are so many levels to these accusations and while “no means no,” we do have to start to implement some solutions to help each other. With the recent story of Aziz Ansari hitting the press, I found myself engaged in a debate on Facebook over a friend’s thread. We were clearly not going to agree on our stance in the matter. My opinion was very general, we as women need to work towards preventative measures and start thinking a few steps ahead of ourselves in situations that could prove to be threatening. A little preventative maintenance could go a long way and while it might not save us all, it could definitely help improve our current status with this disturbing growing culture of sexual assault and rape.
Too often we overlook the importance of signs. Which signs, you ask? The ones that present themselves to us from a higher source. Bear with me—this doesn't have to be a religious or spiritual post. I know that can be a touchy subject and not everyone necessarily "believes." If I were to really dive deep into the topic of "believing" in something, anything, I'd say the most important thing to believe in (besides God) is YOURSELF! Your higher source could be different than mine and I'm not here to negotiate that. There are so many things we can do to make life so complex. Things won't always make sense or line up in our favor. Most of the time we will feel like we're going against the current. That's because we find ourselves resisting things that have presented themselves for our highest good.
I don't know what it is nowadays, but it seems more and more of my friends are single.