Have you found yourself fighting a battle that you felt that you were never going to win? Have you ever found yourself trying to train your brain to reject pain that human beings are normally unable to tolerate? Have you found yourself learning to cope with your illness, instead of getting rid of it? That, my friends, is what it is like having a chronic illness.
I recently celebrated my "entreprenuversery." Yup! I definitely just made that name up as I wrote this. It been a year since I officially became an entrepreneur and launched my own business, JuNuri. (Sidenote: Now that I've made up this word, I probably should trademark it or something).
Those who know me well are aware that I am extremely passionate about understanding mental illness and how to promote psychological wellness. Having dealt with it in different forms on a personal as well as having loved people who suffer(ed) mental illness, I can definitely attest to how undervalued mental wellness can be. Growing up as a black, Haitian-American, and Christian, my eyes were opened up to the large misconceptions that exist in cultural communities where I function.
So, after being single for a few years, I am finally in a relationship (let the church say "Amen"). Since I have been in a relationship, my eyes have been further opened up to the different conversations of what a Proverbs 31 woman should be like or what a Boaz-like man should be like. People who come up with every definition of who a man should be to his lady, who a woman should be to her man, and what people should be to this world. Like other single folk, I have gone through countless lectures of how I may be too much or not good enough, and that I need to change. Everyone has a say on how I should speak, eat, think, interact, feel, and live in order to be considered attractive or worthy for a man. It seems that everyone is an expert.