I am a Gen X woman now finding my way through midlife. Fortunately, Gen X has redefined what that means. Here I will share my nostalgia for the past, my experiences in present time and my perspective on it all.
Step parent struggles? I never wanted kids. Part of that was because I had grown to become the exact person I had always verbally said I didn’t want to become as a kid – the kind that couldn’t relate to kids. I guess it can happen to the best of us. The bigger part though was that I have always firmly believed that if you are not willing to completely give up your life as you know it in favor of the child, then you should just not have them at all. Somehow I inherently knew I wasn’t willing to do that. In the end, the latter thought – do it right or don’t do it at all – is what made me a decent parent.
It’s the most wonderful time of the year. I say that every October. To be honest, this year I feel conflicted. Part of me wants to celebrate my birth month, Halloween, the feeling of autumn, the kickoff of college bowl and of holiday season as always. The other part of me feels so drained by 2020 that I just want to sit home and do nothing. From pandemics, riots, bad news everywhere you turn to friends, family and neighbors constantly fighting on social networks it’s hard to see a light at the end of the tunnel. I think about now pretty much everyone is looking to holidays for a bright spot in an otherwise bleak year.