I am a Gen X woman now finding my way through midlife. Fortunately, Gen X has redefined what that means. Here I will share my nostalgia for the past, my experiences in present time and my perspective on it all.
Note: Originally written December 25, 2018 If you are like my husband, Ben, and I (and pretty much the rest of the modern world) you have become a binge-watcher. In case you are looking for a good binge that you may have missed this past year, following is some of our favorite binge-worthy TV of this year.
Picture this, Hollywood 2012, a young girl named Jennifer is attending the 40th birthday party of her Jewish friend Mike. (Ok so I’m stealing a line from Golden Girls Sophia Petrillo.)
Once upon a time in Hollywood… It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. It was the age of wisdom…ok it was NOT the age of wisdom. Let’s face it, if it was anything it was the age of bad decisions…but it was fun! It was in fact my once upon a time in Hollywood.
It took me a long time to finally sit down and write this passage of scary birthday 47. It has been a lot to process. 47 has always been my “scary” age. As I kid I could never imagine myself as an adult in my 40’s. To steal a line from our generation’s favorite trilogy, it seemed like something that would only happen a long time from then in a galaxy far, far away.
Everyone loves celebrity sightings. I understand why. The feeling you get is similar to when you run into someone from school that you haven’t seen in years. That rush of recognition and excitement over a familiar face. That “hey I know you!” in the middle of a crowd of strangers. Then you go home and tell your friends who you ran into that day. In a way, a celebrity of Generation X (or any other generation really but I’m speaking for me…) are friends who have been a part of your life via some form of media.
I played with Barbie Dolls until I was 12 years old. Yep, I said that. I didn’t get my period until I was 16. While there were guys I liked here and there, I had no real interest in an actual relationship. There was a moment in my late 20’s when I thought I wanted to settle down but it was fleeting and then I was back to dating douce bags. Generation X dickwads who guaranteed I would not be in any kind of serious relationship.
People of all ages, midlife women included, seem to be posting memes about toxic friends on social media with some kind of frequency. We’ve all experienced our share of fallouts with others. In the past year alone I have been surprised at how many stories I have heard from some of you about being let down by new and long-time friends alike. Below I share some of my own experiences over the years with you. Apparently, it’s a fact of life that people fall out. Sometimes you make up, sometimes you break up. Friends can come and go out of our lives. What comes next is for each of us to decide.
“It’s all part of my rock n roll fantasy…” – Bad Company Once upon a time, waaaaaaaayyyyy back in the 1990’s, I was in my early 20’s. I was living in Hermosa Beach, California and had made some new friends who were waitresses at the restaurant across the street from my apartment. One day they told me that these cute boys had come into their restaurant and invited them to see their 80’s cover band. My friends showed me the flyer and asked me if I wanted to go. Dancing all night to an 80’s cover band? Hell yes! That weekend three young girls decked out for dancing headed out into the LA night.